Post # 1
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
So you bees know the common advice-don’t start planning too soon, your mind will change a thousand times! I totally get that and I’m sure many bees have had original plans gone astray as time goes on. But I’m curious, when do you stop changing your mind? When do you reach the point where you stopped waffling over whether you wanted flowers or candles for a centerpiece and just put down your foot and PICKED one? Was it the last possible second? Was it a few months out and even if you wanted to switch again you were already too far in to do so? Or did you know what you wanted from the very beginning and didn’t change it once?
More of a discussion than a specific question really, I’m just curious to know a bit more how the planning process worked out for my fellow bees 🙂
Post # 2
When I first got engaged it took me forever to make decisions. EVERY single detail was very important to me!
Now that I’m a few months out I’m like “fuck it” and literally don’t care about anymore details, just ready for it to get here and be done with!
Post # 3
Eh. I’m the type of person that once I decide about something, that’s my final decision. I very rarely waffle on about anything.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2
The wedding stress built up and in the crunch, ‘fuck it, I pick this one’ happened a lot!!!
Post # 5
My Pinterest board was stupid huge, after pinning for a whole year!. About a month ago, I deleted everything I no longer loved. I now have a short and sweet board, with what I REALLY want. And I refuse to look more.
Post # 6
TwinkleBoss: I’m not much of a waffler. I researched options and prices, and picked one or two options, showed them to my FI and if he had a strong preference (and I agreed) we picked that one. If he didn’t care, I picked the one I liked better. Done. I haven’t changed any of my decisions thus far and I don’t regret any of them either. Most of the decisions are done well before any time crunch (I’m still 5 months out.)
I will say, once I decide on something I don’t look at alternatives. It’s done, there’s no reason for me to keep looking.
Post # 7
Unfortunately, our budget has been making the decisions for us. I had many fantastic ideas collected, but very few of them are doable. 🙁 It’s making everything both extremely hard and easy at the same time. Some days, I wonder why we’re bothering having a wedding at all because it doesn’t really suit my vision. I just want to be married!
Post # 8
I’ve been pretty good on most things. Knew the centerpieces I wanted, dress and accessories chosen with little trouble. Once I made any decision I stopped looking at that and actually deleted those pins completely.
Post # 9
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
I still make some changes. Finally finalized the menu, read – 100 changes involved. Overall my vision has stayed the same. With that said if I have a choice I do go with the least expensive. I’m a penny pincher and don’t see a reason to spend so much on one day.
Post # 10
After I started making some of the larger decisions, it was much easier to see how I wanted it to come together in my mind! It was much easier to make choices and stick with them as I slowly pieced parts if the day together! Simpler is always to way to go, don’t overthink things and it will be much easier!
Post # 11
I have the same issue…. I have been planning for a year and only now am I really starting to lock down all the specifics…. I refuse to pintrest or buy any more wedding mags as I don’t need any more ideas It is too confusing I have booked all of my vendors… And now I am just confirming final details with the florist regarding colors and flower types and things like the exact cake design. I found it less stressful booking all the vendors in so Iknew my date was secure well in advance… And it has meant I have had lots of time to really consider What I Want… But knowing that I have everyone booked has meant I don’t need to panic last minute. I brought a number of things early on that I know regret I was just super excited and just started getting stuff… That now I will not end up using as it really does not fit my final narrowed down vision. I was so bamboozled in the beginning with so many ideas that now I realise are not me. Gosh I wish I had listened when I was told to take time before choosing things it wold have saved me so much money
Post # 12
We picked a date 8 months after getting engaged (we’re moving in a year, and we had to pick a time when international relatives could get time off) AND we’re getting married across the US (planning a wedding in CA while living in MA). The short timeline combined with the fact that the wedding is across the country (and I’m a busy woman) means I make decisions quickly, decisively, and don’t look back. I’ve already got a LOT nailed down. Like sostobe, I don’t think about a decision/options once I’ve made a choice. Regret is your enemy! I do think that the tiny details will take more time (what hair? makeup? jewelry? table cloth color? candy favors?) because I am able to hold off on deciding those for a while, so I’ll just obsess over them forever…