When did you stop changing your mind?

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
1905 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

When I first got engaged it took me forever to make decisions. EVERY single detail was very important to me! 

Now that I’m a few months out I’m like “fuck it” and literally don’t care about anymore details, just ready for it to get here and be done with! 

Post # 3
1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Eh. I’m the type of person that once I decide about something, that’s my final decision. I very rarely waffle on about anything. 

Post # 4
1806 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - EDD Aug '15

cls9q:  +1

The wedding stress built up and in the crunch, ‘fuck it, I pick this one’ happened a lot!!!

Post # 5
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My Pinterest board was stupid huge, after pinning for a whole year!. About a month ago, I deleted everything I no longer loved. I now have a short and sweet board, with what I REALLY want. And I refuse to look more.

Post # 6
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

TwinkleBoss:  I’m not much of a waffler.  I researched options and prices, and picked one or two options, showed them to my FI and if he had a strong preference (and I agreed) we picked that one.  If he didn’t care, I picked the one I liked better.  Done.  I haven’t changed any of my decisions thus far and I don’t regret any of them either. Most of the decisions are done well before any time crunch (I’m still 5 months out.)  

I will say, once I decide on something I don’t look at alternatives.  It’s done, there’s no reason for me to keep looking. 

Post # 7
113 posts
Blushing bee

Unfortunately, our budget has been making the decisions for us. I had many fantastic ideas collected, but very few of them are doable. 🙁 It’s making everything both extremely hard and easy at the same time. Some days, I wonder why we’re bothering having a wedding at all because it doesn’t really suit my vision. I just want to be married!

Post # 8
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’ve been pretty good on most things. Knew the centerpieces I wanted, dress and accessories chosen with little trouble. Once I made any decision I stopped looking at that and actually deleted those pins completely.

Post # 9
1300 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

I still make some changes.  Finally finalized the menu, read – 100 changes involved.  Overall my vision has stayed the same.  With that said if I have a choice I do go with the least expensive.   I’m a penny pincher and don’t see a reason to spend so much on one day.

Post # 10
4015 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

After I started making some of the larger decisions, it was much easier to see how I wanted it to come together in my mind! It was much easier to make choices and stick with them as I slowly pieced parts if the day together! Simpler is always to way to go, don’t overthink things and it will be much easier!

Post # 11
156 posts
Blushing bee

I have the same issue…. I have been planning for a year and only now am I really starting to lock down all the specifics…. I refuse to pintrest or buy any more wedding mags as I don’t need any more ideas It is too confusing    I have booked all of my vendors… And now I am just confirming final details with the florist regarding colors and flower types and things like the exact cake design.  I found it less stressful booking all the vendors  in so Iknew my  date was secure well in advance… And it has meant I have had lots of time to really consider What I Want… But knowing that I have everyone booked has meant I don’t need to panic last minute.  I brought a number of things early on that I know regret I was just super excited and just started getting stuff… That now I will not end up using as it really does not fit my final narrowed down vision.  I  was so bamboozled in the beginning with so many ideas that now I realise are not me.  Gosh I wish I had listened when I was told to take time before choosing things it wold have saved me so much money

Post # 12
761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

We picked a date 8 months after getting engaged (we’re moving in a year, and we had to pick a time when international relatives could get time off) AND we’re getting married across the US (planning a wedding in CA while living in MA). The short timeline combined with the fact that the wedding is across the country (and I’m a busy woman) means I make decisions quickly, decisively, and don’t look back. I’ve already got a LOT nailed down. Like sostobe, I don’t think about a decision/options once I’ve made a choice. Regret is your enemy! I do think that the tiny details will take more time (what hair? makeup? jewelry? table cloth color? candy favors?) because I am able to hold off on deciding those for a while, so I’ll just obsess over them forever… 

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