Post # 1
My SO and I have been talking SERIOUSLY about getting engaged, after 4 years together! So the other day he suggested I get my Dad on the phone to get his blessings. We both spoke to him, and he was over the moon Excited. We don’t have a ring yet, so I feel like until I have that ring, then it’s not “official” so we have sworn my Mom & Dad to secrecy, until the proposal, So my question to you ladies is when you got engaged, did you Know about the impending proposal? And if so, at what point did you let your family know?
I fell kinda bad that I have this gag order of my parents (my family is huge as very nosey) but I wanted to make sure we had their blessings before we moved forward and got the ring.
Post # 3
We are still in pending engagement mode. My SO hasnt bought the ring (to my knowledge) but he has told his brother and cousin that it was coming up. After I knew things were coming together and gave him a few hints on the ring I kind of let myself out of it all. I still want it to be a surprize even though I know its coming. I know he said before that he wont ask my dad until he has the ring (he already asked before and my dad was so excited so he already knows he will say yes).
Post # 4
My parents knew about a month before when Darling Husband came to ask for their blessing, but we didn’t tell a soul other than that until after things were official. I mean, people knew we were serious, and it was kinda a given that it was headed toward marriage, and that we were thinking summer of 2010… but nobody knew about the pending proposal. I would have been pissed if I was last to know!
Post # 5
I let my grandma know that we were talking about it and when we told her she was so excited. When he proposed we let everyone know at my birthday party.
Post # 6
@nambi_pambi: Darling Husband and I got engaged, like, 3 months after our first date. No ring, yet, so I guess it wasn’t official, but we were beginning to plan the wedding. I waiting a couple months to tell my sister… and I said, “Don’t tell mom yet!” And she said, “Please. Mom already knows.” I was very confused… til she explained, “When mom met him, she told us all that you were gonna marry him!” I thought, wow, way to go mother’s intuition.
I told my mother over the phone (we live long distance). I said something like, “Hey, just looking at wedding dresses online..” and she just flipped. Very emotional. Then we told his parents… bahaha still didn’t have the ring at this point. From there we just let the word spread. My ring was being custom made, so everyone knew even before I wore it for the first time!
Post # 7
My parents and his mom already knows that we are planning a wedding. They’re also sworn to secrecy but my parents have been telling family members since the summer to make sure they make themselves avaiable in 2014!!!! I’ve just been giving him hints of the type of ring I would like so he’ll get it right. But he knows he must privately have that convo with my parents first!
Post # 8
I knew for about 2 months beforehand, but I didn’t tell anyone until after it happened. I knew my family loved him and they knew we were talking about marriage, but I wanted to surprise them with the proposal.
My Future Sister-In-Law saw the ring before I did. She signed for the MoissyCo package, and FH gave her permission to open it and look to make sure everything was okay. She was the only one who knew before it happened.
Post # 9
I was surprised by the proposal. Fiance told my family and his before proposing (months before!)
Post # 10
My mum already assumed we would be getting married at the first reasonable time, which we are. She didn’t understand why we weren’t engaged years ago. Dad doesn’t really like my sister and I or our FI’s, or any of our exes, or our friends XD. (Don’t get me wrong i’m sure he loves us in his own way) so hasn’t really asked about it or anything.
FI’s family don’t like me because i’m common and northern, socialist and vegetarian. I think I represent everything they disagree with. His Canadian half cousins like me just fine but they can’t make it unfortunately.