(Closed) When did you tell your employer you were pregnant

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: When did you tell your employer you were pregnant
    5-8 weeks : (7 votes)
    23 %
    9-12 weeks : (7 votes)
    23 %
    2nd trimester : (17 votes)
    55 %
    3rd trimester [not likely] : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    2095 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We didn’t tell our families until around 11-12 weeks and I told work a few weeks after that. I think it was the very beginning of the 2nd trimester.

    Post # 4
    1035 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I told my boss pretty early. I kind of had to though, my coworker quit in early Feb and my boss was really dragging his feet on hiring a replacement for him, so I was just doing his job on top of mine. I mean, my boss got two weeks notice from my old coworker and didn’t even post the job opening at all during that time, so I ended up having double duty for about a week before he even considered looking for someone else.

    I saw this dragging on for months, so I had to tell him I was pregnant and he could not count on me doing two jobs indefinitely. I think it was mid to late Feb when I told him, so I was probably about 9-10 weeks. I told a few other close coworkers around the same time, and word probably got around to everyone at about 12 weeks. I would have preferred to wait longer, but at nine weeks, the prospect of doing two jobs was just too much.

    Post # 5
    1883 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    haha. I told my boss the day after I found out. I was sitting there and bursting with excitement and like I CANT JUST PRETEND NOT TO BE PREGNANT!

    Post # 6
    6825 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I told my boss pretty much as soon as I found out, due to all the doctor apts. This way I knew they wouldn’t say to much when started to take a bunch of time off.

    Post # 8
    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Due to our situation we had to tell my boss before we were pregnant (IVF).  If I could do it over I wouldn’t tell him until I absolutely had to.  They legally can’t fire you but they can make your life miserable.  Unless there is a need to know (for appointments or something else) I wouldn’t tell them.  I moved to a new position and didn’t tell them until 4 weeks before I left for maternity leave (I didn’t get terribly big).

    Post # 9
    1120 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I told my old boss at 11 weeks since we had worries and I had to leave for the doctor’s on short notice… But I was changing jobs two weeks later… I told the new boss at 17 weeks, since I didn’t want to tell him on the first week at work, but I was starting to show a little bit..

    Post # 10
    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    i told 1 or 2 coworkers who are good friends early on, but waited until i was 14 weeks to tell my boss. i wanted to wait until my 2nd trimester, which was hard since i had a rough 1st tri. i’m glad i waited cause it was funner to spread the news as i was just beginning to show!

    Post # 12
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I told my boss at 12 wks because we were doing genetic testing that would require me to be out for a couple of days. I told him I was pregnant, but that we had to do some tests bc we had some serious concerns about baby’s health and that I’d like to keep it quiet until we had results, but that I’d be gone for a few days while we did the testing. And at that point some of my co-workers had figured it out because of how I was dressing (jackets & scarves to cover my bloated belly– they didn’t say anything until after I announced).

    Post # 13
    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I only told my boss at 8 weeks because I was getting ocular migraines and would get dizzy.   I wanted someone in the building to be aware of them, just in case…

    Post # 14
    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I told my boss @ 3 months & my dept. @ 4 months…I wanted to be out of a reasonable m/c range.

    Post # 15
    1667 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @bells: first of all, holy crap! i somehow missed that you were pregnant (or forgot perhaps!) so congrats!

    I haven’t been down this road yet, but I agree that you should tell them at the end of the first trimester

    Post # 16
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2007

    For both pregnancies, I told one or two supervisors at work pretty much immediately because there were problems either with me or baby that meant I was out a lot for appointments or otherwise not doing well. For the second pregnancy, my supervisor was also pregnant (her son is 4 months older than mine), so that helped.

    I found it very helpful that they always knew- my office is generally very family-friendly, and my supervisors were really supportive and flexible with my needs/issues during early pregnancy.

    If I’d been feeling fine, I think I would have waited a while. I didn’t “go public” at work until around 6 months.

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