Post # 1
I’m about 5 weeks pregnant. It would be my parents first grandchild. I really want to tell my parents and brother on Father’s Day (in four days). Not only because I think Father’s Day would be adorable (I want to give my dad his regular Father’s Day card and present and then give him another present that is a bib that says “I Love Grandpa” or something like that), but also because the day after Father’s Day I am taking a nine hour road trip with my mom to visit my aunt, my cousin, and her twin boys. I don’t know if I can make that whole trip (on the road there, back and staying there) without telling her. I am a little worried to tell them too early though because of the chance of a miscarriage. I am very close with my family, especially my mom, but I’m still nervous. What do you think and when did you tell your parents?
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Post # 2
RoseyBee: We told our moms as soon as we found out (5.5 weeks), but didn’t announce the pregnancy until about 12 weeks. I thought I was sick with the stomach flu (nausea, abdominal pain, etc), found out I was pregnant and the doctor suspected I might have an ectopic pregnancy due to the abdominal pain. I was rushed to the hospital, which is when we called our moms thinking I may need emergency surgery. When the ultrasound technician went to look for the which side needed surgery and she realized I was just pregnant with twins, we called our moms to fill them in on what was happening. If I had known, I probably would’ve just waited until 12 weeks to tell everyone.
Post # 3
Ah! The name of the poll (as soon as it was confirmed) was meant to be the first option of the poll, not the title! Whoops!
Post # 4
We told our parents at 5 weeks – we waited a few days for it to sink in, and we also wanted to announce it on Thanksgiving. I did end up having a miscarriage, but I was really happy that we’d had a chance to celebrate the good news while it was still good, and that our families were there to support us through the miscarriage.
It’s a very personal choice, but I’d say that if you’d tell your family that you were having a miscarriage if it happened, you can go ahead and tell them now. On the other hand, if you wouldn’t want to share news of a miscarriage with them, hold off until 12 weeks.
Post # 5
We told our parents and siblings as soon as we knew. Had there been a miscarriage, we would have wanted that soul to have been loved and “known” during its existence. Who better to love it than it’s grandparents and family?
Post # 6
Comenting to follow. We’re almost 6 weeks and haven’t told anyone but it’s killing me not to tell my mom. I’m going to discuss with DH and if he’s ok with it we’ll probably tell my parents on Father’s Day.
Post # 7
I would definitely tell them! If you misscarry, wouldn’t you tell them what happened? I plan to tell my immediate family and my very best friend right away- I would never be able to keep it a secret anyway!
Post # 8
I told my mom the day after I got my BFP. We told DH’s parents a couple of weeks later, but mainly because they were out of state and we wanted to tell them in person.
Post # 9
RoseyBee: We told them right away after my first appointment which was around 5 weeks. I told them and DH’s parents, but no one else, not even siblings. We knew if we told my parents and his that if, God forbid, something happened, we could rely on them for support. I didn’t want to tell anyone else just in case.
Post # 10
The day we found out! We always planned to wait but my husband was too excited!
Post # 11
We’re telling my parents on the 21st, my birthday. I’ll be heading into my 11th week on the 23rd. We’re telling DH’s family on the 26th, and I’ll be a little over 11 weeks then too. We wanted to wait until it was safer to announce, and after our first appointment.
Post # 12
Not pregnant (yet!), but when/if I’m ever pregnant, when I tell my parents and my in-laws will likely depend on when I first see them in person. My husband and I are both terrible at keeping secrets. We also live far away from our parents and usually only see them on holidays and vacations — times where we typically would be drinking. Everyone will be able to guess immediately.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
We told them as soon as we could meet in person after finding out ourselves. For my dad, that was only about a week later ’cause he lives in town. My mom is out of state and so are my husband’s parents. So they had to wait an additional 2 weeks till we could drive up over Memorial Day Weekend. So my dad found out when I was about 4 weeks pregnant and my mom and DH’s parents found out when I was at about 6 weeks.
Post # 14
I guess Im on the odd side out but we’re not planning on telling (when it happens) for the 3 months….. I have concerns about MC as a lot of women in my family have issues and I really dont want to have to “deal with people” if that were to happen. I wouldnt mind my mom etc but thing is my mom CANNOT keep a secret to save her life (nor DH father)…. one of many examples: my mom tried to secretly but not so secretly emailed pictures of me in my wedding dress to everyone she had email address for a year before our wedding after I specifically told her NO ONE is to see it.
plus…. DH parents are great but extremely overbearing and this is something Im concerned about when a kid comes… so telling them asap will make for a loooooooooooooooong 9 months lol.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park
I told my parents as soon as the blood test came out positive. Mainly because I talk to my mom almost daily and it was killing me not telling her. We are telling the husband’a parents when we see them in about two weeks (I’ll be almost 15 weeks)