Post # 1
Ever since I got engaged my dad has been mentioning he has to meet my FMIL (my mom & FI’s dad have both passed away). We were only dating for a year before we got engaged and FMIL lives about a 2 hour drive from my dad, so there hasn’t been much opprotunity to get them together. On top of that, FMIL has fairly advanced Parkinsons, so she rarely leaves the house and it’s really hard to communicate with her because her speech is mumbled and she gets too tired to talk after a sentence or two. So just the four of us is going to be kind of awkward since the conversation would inevitably be me, dad & FI talking which we could do anytime. So we assume we’ll just include his sisters, my sister and whatever neices and nephews can make it.
So tell me about how your families met. Did you do a joint holiday? Did you get together for dinner? Did they not meet until the rehearsal dinner?
Post # 3
We have been together for 3 1/2 years, engaged since October 2013 and our moms have met. My mom has never met his dad and my dad has not yet met either of his parents. My parents live about 6 hours away and the last time my mom was out visiting there was no opportunity for her to meet his dad (he was already asleep when we were at FIs house).
Our moms just met at his parents house. We just went down and hung out, but like I said his dad was already asleep. I’m sure my dad won’t meet them until rehearsal dinner.
Post # 4
@MexiPino: Our parents met about a month after we began dating and our families are quite close now. FI’s parents live in the same city as us and mine live about 2,000 kilometres away, but they visit every 3 or 4 months. We always get together with FI’s parents when mine are in town and actually our families have spent Christmas together the past two years in a row. My parents really, really like my future in-laws and vice versa. It’s good because my parents think my brother and sister’s respective in-laws are odd and they rarely if ever see them.
Post # 5
My DH and I met during university, and his parents’ house is about half way from my hometown to our university town. So on a couple occasions my parents dropped me off at their house when driving me back to school, and then I went up with him. So I think that would be when they met. The first time they really spent time together was after our convocation – we had a joint “grad party” for our parents and sisters at my in-laws house.
Post # 6
My mom and sister met FI’s parents and sister a few months after we got engaged (so after we’d been together for about 2 1/2 years, a little more). They live many hundreds of miles apart though so that isn’t surprising, and honestly I didn’t expect them to meet before the wedding itself.
Post # 7
Our parents met about a year after we started dating. They were in town for a sports event for my brother, and my now FI’s parents live in the same town we do. His parents insisted on getting together to eat while they were here.
Post # 8
We arranged a dinner shortly after the engagement. My FSIL and I live in the same city, her parents were coming down to help her move, any my parents live about an hour away, so that was fairly convenient. In your case, I think everyone should make the effort to go to your FMIL’s house for a nice family dinner.
Post # 9
@MexiPino: We literally are from opposite sides of the country– My family lives in CA and DH’s family in MA so our families didn’t meet until the wedding. I sort of doubt they will see each other again because my MIL loves to talk about how much she hates CA so I don’t think she will be headed there any time soon, hahaha. We will be moving back to CA in the next few years so we’ll see.
Post # 11
His family lives 5 hours from us and my family is 2 hours away in a different direction so it took awhile. We arranged a meeting after we got engaged. We had been living together for about a year and a half at that point. I was nervous but it went well. We all got together for the food tasting a few months later and that was really great!
Post # 12
@MexiPino: My mom met my SO’s mom after we were together almost a year. We did a lunch with both of them. My mom has yet to meet his dad (my dad died 20 years ago and my SO’s parents are divorced). Actually my SO’s mom invited myself and my mother to her Boxing Day party which I thought was very nice.
Post # 13
Ours didn’t meet until the rehearsal dinner! Our moms started talking on the phone and emailing after we got engaged but they didn’t officially meet until the rehearsal. I was worried about it being awkward but it was fine.
Post # 14
@TGold: I agree. Unfortunately, my FSILs are the WORST when it comes to us all getting together. I might just plan something with my sister, dad & FMIL and hope my FSILs show up.
Post # 15
@MexiPino: They have NEVER met! We’ve been married 1.5 years and together 5.5.
I don’t think it will ever happen. My mom’s a flake.
They also live 2,100 miles apart (OR to IN), so they have to really want it to happen.
Post # 16
Our parents live over a thousand miles apart. MIL came up for the bridal shower and met my family then, and FIL met them at the rehearsal.