Post # 1
I have lived in the same home for like 17 years. When I move in after the wedding with my new husband, it will be a huge change for me. I want the apartment that I will be moving in with him to feel like a home. OURS.
How long did it take for you to have your new apartment feel like a home, like its YOUR place??
What did you do to make it feel more homely?? What can I do to make it feel like a home??
Post # 3
Unpacking made a big difference. And then redecorating after Fiance decorated. Because I liked the green placemats better than the black ones. Also hanging things on the walls. Basically it feels like your place once you have arranged everything the way you want it. It took me about 2 weeks, but I had lived away from home for a long time (college for several years plus across the country at an internship by myself and camp for various summers) multiple times. This is our first place together though. I think it might take a little longer if you are moving straight out of your parent’s house vs another place you have lived by yourself.
Post # 4
Took about a month or two for us.
Post # 5
@asscherlover: True. Decorating , rearranging will help.
Post # 6
It took about 2 months before I didn’t feel strange getting a bath or shower in my new apartment (which was the last thing before I felt completely at home).
Unpacking and seeiing all my things sure made it feel like home through most of the house within a week or so! =D
Post # 7
@Earlybride: I couldn’t get a sense from your post if you’re moving into his place or a new place altogether. I’ve moved around from apt to apt a lot (I’m from NYC and it’s not unusual) and my first step is to make the bed — right away! Unpacking takes days but your bed can be your sanctuary from the mess. It never took me 2 months to get used to a place, just a couple of weeks. Decorate, buy fresh flowers and get to know your new hood! It’ll be a lot easier than you expect, just like getting used to a new job! But really, just unpack and you’ll be okay. When you don’t have someplace else to escape to, you settle in.
Post # 8
I went to visit my parents for a week and realized that I felt odd in mg house and my apt was “home”
Post # 9
I am moving into his apartment and it’s HIS stuff… so it’s not ours yet.
Post # 10
I recently realized it took me 2 years to really feel like my “new” apartment is my home. Not that it felt uncomfortable before but I just kind of accepted the furniture, including some hand me downs and some of his pieces from before we were together. Then he moved for a new job and I have been living alone for the last half a year and started tweeking things to make the apartmetn more personal. I think the big things are hanging things on the wall, in our last place, we were not allowed to put holes in the walls so decoration was minimal and it never felt like we lived there fully. I also think curtains make a living space more of a home.
Post # 11
A major scrubdown/purification of all nastiness, painting, decorating, and finally getting the smell of the past tenants out! Haha.
Seriously, I would not feel at home in a place until I was convinced that the only speck of grime in the shower came from my body and no one else’s.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We’ve been renting this house for almost 2 years and it still doesn’t feel like home. I can’t wait until we close on oiur house and I am finally allowed to paint, hang photos and artwork, etc.
Post # 13
When Darling Husband moved in with me, it was already decorated and furnished so we did little things like buy a new rug together, get new bedding, etc. Then we moved into another rental and bought all new furniture so it really was our place. Now that we own, every single decision has been made by the two of us so the entire place is a result of both of our tastes (and paid for equally).
Post # 14
For us it was decorating. The first time we felt like it was our home was when we finally put all of the paintings on the walls. That just made it feel like home. Then we adopted two kitties and it really made it feel like a family home. Good luck!
Post # 15
As soon as everything was unpacked and the apartment was decorated and set. I’m big on aesthetics and my home just doesn’t feel right if it’s not clean and set up.
Post # 16
I had that same issue too.. Once we left our condo when we bought our house, it felt cold and not “ours” for sure. Definitely for the first couple months I was missing our other place and loved the way we had it.. Even when we were unpacked it didn’t feel homey..
So we began to renovate it.. We completely renovated the condo from top to bottom to the way we liked it.. I think that’s why I missed it so much.
Once a coat of paint went on, tore out the bathroom did other improvements and I was able to decorate it, now it feels like home to me. We are able to put our personal touches and make it the way we like it.
I know this isn’t our “forever” home.. But I hate to renovate again in the future.. I’m getting tired of it haha.