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My FH and I have been together for 2 years, and our parents have never met. I've met his parents and most of his family, he's met my parents and some of my family. But there's never been a parent meeting. Everyone seems to think that it's odd and sometimes I think it's a little strange, but it's not something that really bothers me a whole lot, but I know his parents have suggested a dinner or something and my parents aren't really all that interested.
How long were you and your SO/FH together before the parents met each other?
About a month after I met his, and two weeks or so after he met mine. Everyone came to my senior recital!
Our parents met the day we got married--and they've seen each other maybe 2 or 3 times in the year and a half since then. They're not bothered by it.
My parents are divorced, Fiance's are not, so it was 3 separate meetings. My mom and stepdad met his parents after we had been dating a little more than 2 years. My dad met his parents after we got engaged, about 3 years into our relationship.
Our parents live on opposite coasts so I didn't think was weird at all.
They met about a month after we got engaged. They live in different states. And it was really awkward...
My parents met his Dad and Step Mom after we were together a little over a year (and had been engaged a month). My parents won't meet his Mom and Step-Dad until the week of the wedding! Eek!
@yellowhammerlady: and @SerenaSF: I'm glad I'm not the only one. I was beginning to feel a little weird about it, since I seem to have been with my FH longer than some of my friends, and their parents have already met each other.
I don't expect them to be best buddies or anything, because I know that mine and FH's upbringing and our parent's views on things are very different.
Our parents met a year after we did. It probably would have been sooner but my parents live in the States and his live in Australia. I was worried about the meeting as our moms are EXACTLY alike and we knew they would either love each other and hate each other. Fortunately, it was the former! The wedding will only be the second time they will have met, although the two moms communicate somewhat regularly over email.
They met at our undergraduate graduation, about 2 1/2 years into us dating. Won't see eachother again until the wedding though.
my parents met his mom and step dad when we graduated from university. But they haven't met his dad and step mom yet.
I worry actually about how the rest of our families are going to mesh at the wedding... we have some pretty strong personalities
We were together almost a year & I threw him a surprise party. I figured it was a good way for several members of his family to meet several members of mine & the presence of music, lots of people & an open bar would make it go a bit better.
It went well & then his parents came to our family Thanksgiving that year & have had dinner at my mother's house a few times since then. His parents have not hosted anything yet (and are not likely to since MIL is anti-social & doesn't seem to like me).
His mom (his dad died) flew out to Oregon while we were starting to do wedding planning. She was there for about half the time we were out there. She stayed at a hotel. It was nice. Lots of time to talk. His mom and my mom got along very well so it was just fine. His mom is so easy-going, though. I totally lucked out.
Our parents came to help us move when we bought our condo together. It was terrible because DH got called in to work, and it was totally non-negotiable mid-move. So it was just me and our parents... moving.
I know they'll meet at the rehearsal dinner at least, but I have to admit that I am worried about them meeting. FH's parents are very conservative and my parent's are, well, not. My FMIL is a pretty easy going woman. She is wonderful, despite the fact that we don't see eye to eye on much.
Our families met about a year after we started dating, at our college graduation. They have seen eachother quite a few times since, for some holidays and birthdays.
His mom met mine briefly when she came to TX. And I mean, it was probably like a 2 minute conversation. So the will really meet for the first time when we start really going on wedding stuff. They live in AZ so it's not like they would have had a chance to meet!
I'm kind of actually really scared for our families to meet. His family is normal, loving, not crazy, etc. My family puts the redneck in country, the crazy in dysfunctional, the omg in WTF? I hate admitting it, but I'm embarrassed by my family. I met his family about two weeks after we started dating, he met my mom and sis about a year out, and the rest a year later. We've been together about three and a half years. Honestly if I could have my way, they'd meet at the wedding and when our kids are born (way in future) and that's it. It also helps that they're on different sides of the country :/
@Miss Godiva: Haha, your description was quite funny. FH has some of those on his side, the rednecks and crazies (his aunt... ugh). Our families only live 2 hours away from each other, but they'll soon be only about... phh a 15 minute drive from each other, so I'm sure they'll run into each other.
I personally didn't think it was all that important for them to meet. That's what the wedding is for. I'm sure after we're married there might be a little more interaction, but I don't think it's odd that they haven't seen each other. Everyone else just makes me feel like I'm some sort of anamoly for it.
@SouthernGirl: I don't want this to sound rude, but I am actually genuinely curious- why aren't your parents interested in meeting your FI's parents?
Is it because they figure they'll meet at the rehearsal dinner and that is good enough?
In Greek culture in-laws spend a lot of time together, so maybe there is just a different expectation for your families? Not a bad thing, just different.
@Evie19: I'm not really sure why my parent's aren't interested in meeting his parent's. I don't think it's because they won't get along. My mom and my FMIL have rarely met a person they don't get along with. I'll just say that my parent's haven't really been supportive during this whole engagement and wedding planning ordeal, so perhaps that has something to do with it? Maybe they don't want to accept the fact that I'm getting married?
I honestly wish I knew... When FMIL suggested they meet for dinner, I told my parents about it, and they just sort of shrugged it off and never mentioned it again. I know my stepdad knows FH's grandparents, so why they don't want to meet his parents is beyond me.
ETA: My parent's met my ex boyfriend's parents multiple times. They went out to dinner and were actually quite close. So, I'm just as curious as you are about this.
My mom and FMIL had met before my FI & I started dating b/c we all go to the same church... My Dad met her the Christmas we started dating b/c he came down & again we sat together at church.
Neither of my Parents have met his Dad though... unfortunately he's not a big part of my FI's life =/
They met pretty quickly, a month at most, maybe a bit earlier.. We were young and didn't think it was a big deal for our parents to meet.. But now my FMIL teases us on how quickly we encouraged the families to meet and socialize when it's supposenly not like that?
@SouthernGirl: Well, as long as your FI's parents aren't offended it doesn't seem like an important problem.
The most important thing is that they can all be civil and friendly during family occassions, no matter when the first time they meet happens to be...
@Evie19: I don't think they are. They haven't mentioned it, and they have been really busy since they're moving and looking for new jobs.
@SouthernGirl: Well that's good then!
I don't think it is fair that people give you such a hard time about the fact that they haven't met. I mean, it is a very different situation than I am used to, but that doesn't make it bad!
@Evie19: I agree! I never thought people would have anything to say about it, but apparently it's odd... It doesn't make me feel bad when people bring it up, but it did get me thinking about it. I guess it's just where I live...people seem to be expected to be all happy together and everyone's family is supposed to become close to each other...
Prom night :) Aww this makes me feel like we have been dating for AGES!
Oddly enough, my parents knew his parents before they got married. FMIL was my aunt's college roommate and MOH. FI and I didn't meet until he was 23 and I was 28, though, despite living only two houses down the street from each other and attending the same schools.
From the beginning as friends we always felt this overwhelming connection to one another......our families knowing each other for so long certainly contributed to that. It's fun being able to talk to FMIL about my family, and very amusing when she pulls out hand written recipes from my grandmother 40 years ago!
We're all hoping the family ties lead to a lively reception! :)
I'd love it if Anton's family lived closer to mine, but they are 6k miles apart from each other. Because of that, they met each other the week before our family/religious wedding ceremony, about 6 months after our legal ceremony. At the time they met, we'd been together nearly 2 years. We'd both met each other's immediate family, friends, and in my case, nearly his whole family (his extended family is much closer both in distance and feeling then mine).
we have been together for a year and a half and our parents sorta "half met."
a little over a year ago i had to have emergency surgery for an infected wisdom tooth. me and FI had been dating about 3 months at that point. It was pretty serious surgery as my face and neck were so swollen they were afraid my airway would be cut off it it swelled much more so i had to have breathing tubes put in and such. I was in ICU for 5 days on a vent. I was very heavily sedated. I remember family coming to visit, mine and his. And I know at some point my mom or dad met his mom or dad...but i couldn't tell you who met who lol.
My parents are divorced, so I'm not really looking forward to having two of everything, ya know? Like having his parents meet my mom, then my dad on separate occassion, which is what is going to have to happen to keep everyone happy. blah.
They still haven't met (we've been engaged for over a year and been together for 2.5 years before that). Mine live in Europe and his live in the US and are not meeting until 3 days before the wedding.
At first I was bothered by it, but now I think it might be for the best. I'm not sure they'd get along if they met earlier and I wouldn't want to have to worry about them not getting along months before the wedding.
We grew up 4 hours away from each other, and we now live near his parents. So I knew his family when we were just friends (for about 8 months before getting together), and he had met mine before as well. A couple months after we started officially dating, my parents came out for a visit, and we had dinner with his parents. We knew they'd like each other - they're very similar and fun people. And we were right!
FI's mom and dad (divorced) literally live 4 minutes away from my parents house. After five months of dating, his mom and stepdad invited my parents over for dinner. My parents met his dad shortly after that.
He met my Mum (She is my only parent) about 2 months into the relationship and I met his Dad and Sister and her family about a month after that. It was a bit weird because they are all totally French. I'm okay in French but they speak super quickly so at first it was hard but after a couple of glasses of wine it was easier! :) I am meeting his Mum this Easter weekend.
At our college graduation, four years after dating. There were ... issues.....otherwise we would have all met earlier I'm sure. And they live 8 hours apart from each other.
Everyone's really easygoing so everyone gets along really well, now!
I have to say the wedding weekend was definitely when everyone really got to know each other.
I'm hoping in the years to come when we start hosting Christmas people will travel in our out to come for the holidays and get both sides together more frequently.
Well, our parents met long before we ever did. They were active in the temple together a long time ago, but hadn't seen each other for years when I met my husband. We were probably dating for just a couple of months when they met again, and now they get along great and we'll all go out to dinner.
our parents met in high school, the same high school where we started dating! 
we have been together for a year and get married in a little over a year.. I can say with certainty the parents will not meet until the wedding. And probably few and far between after that. 1 they live in different states, 2. my parents are retired and RV around the country. No one seems too concerned with it....I dont find it a big deal either. Everyone has lives to live.
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