Post # 1
I’ve heard your sex drive picks up in your mid-late 20s. I’m hoping this is true!
FI would have sex all day/any day. But me.. Not so much. I enjoy it and everything, but definitely don’t have a huge sex drive. I’m hoping it picks up so we are both on the same page and both feeling satisfied!
So bees, have you noticed a change in your drive at a certain point in your life?
Post # 2
cls9q: I am 22 and my FI 23 he is always ready to go me I couldn’t care less about sex I can even go years without it and I won’t be bother by it. Sometimes we argue about it he ask me if I am feeling someone else blah blah blah and I always have the same answer I am just don’t have the need for sex and at time I just have sex just because he nag me to much about it. So you not the only one with this problem
Post # 3
Yes yes and yes. It’s sad that men peak at 18 and women around 30. I know I was a horn dog in my mid 20’s but dang me if it didn’t go into overdrive in my 30’s!!! Sadly, his declined a lot. I still have a very high drive in my mid-40’s and he’s struggling each time as he has mentioned, although he’s extremely greatful although frustrated.
I think the longer you have been together sexually, you become more open. I find that knowing each other better over the years and the intimacy that comes from it, is what truly leads to a better sex life.
You are only 21, it gets better!!! Have the love, intimacy, and fun and with time you will enjoy it more.
Post # 4
MY FI can go any time… and i am in the same boat as you, not alot of drive. I am 25 and hoping it picks up! I have noticed it has been the last year… but may be jsut stress?
Post # 5
sharksgrl99: yes, I love how comfortable we are. We’ve been together over 3 years so that part is easy. I just long for the day that I crave sex! I think it will really strengthen our relationship and I won’t feel a guilt about feeling like he isn’t satisfied. We have talked about this though and he completely understands 🙂
Post # 6
I’m 35; my peak was in my mid to late 20s..
Post # 7
I’m nearly 50 (no menopause yet) and I haven’t really noticed much change due to age. What I have noticed is a very big change due to having kids, and caring for young kids. So it was high before having kids, dropped away after the birth of our first child (around age 30), and slowly picked up once the youngest got to be about 3 or so. As far as I can tell it’s still rising. So I guess I would say that changes in my personal circumstances (i.e. kids older and less demanding, so I’m less tired) are more than offsetting any supposed decrease in drive due to age.
Post # 8
Right now I am 35 and I feel like my peak is right now. My husband and I have always had a great sex life, but for some reason I seem to be on overload and want him all of the time.
Post # 9
I am 25 (26 in 2 months) and my sex drive has definitely increased (don’t know for certain it has “peaked”) in the past 2 years. I used to not be as interested in sex and I didn’t initiate, but now I am way more into it. Not exactly sure why, but it could have to do with my birth control changes too.
Post # 10
Well I’m 20 (21 in May) and my partner is 24. We started dated when I was 18 and have always had a great sex drive. I wasn’t so sure since I was so young at 18 and it took me awhile to feel comfortable about myself. Yet once we both opened up to each other we have sex 1-2 times a day. I know it sounds like a lot, but we are very intimate people.
Post # 11
Mine definetly peaked at 30. I’m going on 37 this year and it’s still right up there.
Post # 12
For me, it was my early 20s (so far – I’m only in my early 30s now). I don’t know if that’s really because of biology or because that’s when DH and I started dating – and thus we were going at it like bunnies. After a few years, I got a lot less interested in sex and we went from 1-3 times a day (egads, how did we ever get anything done) to 1-3 times a week. My sex drive went way up again when we started TTC though, so it’s higher now than it was in my mid-late 20s. I think for me the TTC sex drive boost was a ‘I’m excited to have babies and sex is now actually procreative so it’s new and exciting again’ thing.
Post # 13
First child at 27 second at 31. The chance of someone knocking on your bedroom door, or calling out for “Mommy!” during the night, can put a real damper on activities. I had a hysterectomy at 43, and that was it! Bleh …
Post # 14
I’m almost 32, and I’ve been a horndog since I met (and lost my virginity to) DH when I was 18. I could do it 5+/day if he was up for it, but his libido has definitely dropped in past years. I’m lucky if we have sex 3 times/month… with the exception of this month, praise Jesus. LOL!
Post # 15
Early 20’s…then mid to late 30’s….