Post # 1
Here’s my ring just for reference!
I absolutely love my ring! But, FI and I just went to look at bands and I didn’t particularly like amy with my ring. I also didn’t like the look of a guard with my ring. So I decided I just wouldnt add a band and keep wearing my ring alone like I do now. And I am perfectly happy with that! It doesn’t bother me at all. But FI offered to get me an upgraded set so I could pick one that I liked a band with.
I would also keep my current ring and probably wear my current one on my right hand. I don’t think I could ever sell/trade in my current ring anyway because I am in love with it and it means so much to me!
But I feel a little torn! It excited me to think about getting a set. But at the same time I feel so sentimental towards my current ring!
I had always thought if I upgraded it would be for a 10 or 20 year anniversary not so soon! (We’ve been engaged and I’ve had my current ring a year and a half.)
So, I would love opinions and to know if you upgraded when it was? Or if you could ever see yourself upgrading at all? If so when would you do it?
Post # 2
I probably would in 10 years (5 if he would let me). I love my ring, it’s the style I love as well, but not 100% something I would have gotten myself. But being the broke kids we are (we’re 20 and 21), we couldn’t exactly afford to have one custom made or anything. 😛 If no upgrade, I would still be perfectly happy with what I have.
Post # 3
BlondeeBee: I don’t think I ever would. We bought a decent sized stone (moissanite) so I don’t think I’d ever later think: I want more. You know? Now ask me about a future right hand ring… haha!
Post # 4
I’m not sure. I don’t think I’d ever upgrade my setting, and since it’s a halo, I’m fairly limited (can’t get a larger center stone, etc.). I think the only thing I’d consider is getting a better quality diamond(s).
Post # 5
I wouldn’t upgrade. To me, the ring DH proposed with has sentimenal value – he picked it out himself, he put in the thought and effort, and that ring was the symbol of his love and commitment. Upgrading it for a bigger stone doesn’t hold a flame to that.
Post # 6
snickerdoodles: y’all are the same age as us! I always thought if I upgraded we could look back at the first ring and remember where we were when we got the first one, and maybe that’s why I’m not sure. Since not so much time has past we can’t really reminisce about the first ring when we look at it on my right hand.
Post # 7
BlondeeBee: We were only engaged 2 months ago, married for one, so every time I look at my ring (got the set soldered today), it makes me absolutely happy and at this moment I wouldn’t ever think about upgrading it. Now adding stacks on the other hand… I plan on getting another simple diamond band for my 21st birthday. 🙂
Post # 8
BlondeeBee: Your ring is gorgeous! I would rock it as a RHR if your FH wants to get you a set (or a wedding band that doesn’t fit with it). If you do that and wear it everyday, you never lose the sentimentality. It’s just on a different hand. A lot of women who have settings that they can’t find bands to match/fit do this.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
BlondeeBee: I think a super dainty ~1mm diamond eternity band would look really pretty with your ring. I love the look of the gap… I’m imagining something kind of like what Blake Lively wears, only with your princess halo and a dainty band. I think that could be a really pretty option!
There is also the option of having part of the basket of your halo shaved off. This will allow for a band to sit flush and the halo will overlap on top of the band.
To answer your question, I guess I technically “upgraded” before we got married; however, it was more due to technicalities than anything else. My first e-ring was defective and wouldn’t hold pave stones, so we returned it and got something custom made. It had a similar style to my first ring, but was a huge improvement, especially qualitywise. In your case, I don’t think this applies as your ring is so beautiful as-is. I could see it looking really pretty with a diamond and sapphire band too! PM me if you want me to send you some ideas 🙂
Post # 10
BlondeeBee: I do not plan to ever upgrade. FH scored the ring of my dreams. Of course, if he did want to upgrade to a 3 carat center, I would accept that as a RHR. 🙂 Otherwise, I’m all set.
Post # 11
My husband upgraded my ring for our one year wedding anniversary. My previous set was a solitaire and an eternity band. I kept the eternity band, because like you, I couldn’t part with it. He put it on my finger during our wedding vows, after all! But I wear it on my right hand so now I get to look at both of my beauties at the same time! 🙂
Post # 12
BlondeeBee: I am actually taking this exact road with my engagement ring and wedding band. I LOVE my engagement ring and could never part with it for sentimental reasons, but it has been impossible to find a wedding band that I could wear next to it. FI and I have purchased a sapphire ring (it would be classified as an engagement ring, but we are calling it an anniversary ring) that I will wear on my left hand and match with a wedding band. I will wear my original engagement ring on my right hand. The “anniversary” ring is going to be a gift to celebrate five years of dating.
Post # 13
FI got my ring with the intention that I’ll never need or want to upgrade it. It was really important to him that he got me my “forever” ring right away, and I of course, respect that. That said, I LOVE my ring and I’d never want to replace it anyway!
Post # 14
BlondeeBee: Oh, and I also should note that FI and I picked out both rings together, so everything has been a very joint process, and I will have the new ring before we are married. I don’t think your FI would have offered to upgrade if it was going to hurt his feelings.
Post # 15
I didnt pick my ring at all, but I am too sentimental a person to ever upgrade. My FI even said “we can get a bigger stone later” but no, not happening. This is my forever ring