Post # 1
We’re having a small bridal party. . . three attendants on each side. Mostly this is because I don’t have a lot of close friends. . . or as a close friend put it — I’m very selective. I have two super close friends who are obvious picks. Then there’s a co-worker with whom I’m close and was (one of 8) bridesmaid in her wedding, but since then we’ve drifted some and she’s got lots going on. I also have a couple other friends, but none that I feel uber close to. I’d like to see what happens in the next few months, but worry that it’s cutting it close for the asking part. So here’s the question(s).
How many months from the ceremony should I ask the mystery 3rd girl?
And will it look weird if we just have 2 attendants each?
Post # 3
Don’t pick anyone just to pick someone, you will regret it. I just watched a friendship get ruined becuase a bridesmaid created more drama than helping the bride. It got to the point that she had to ask her to leave the wedding party and replaced her with another girl. So my advice is to wait and pick someone you really feel will support you with any project you decide to take on and will stay up till 3 am making your dream favors with you if needed.
Post # 4
I agree don’t pick for the number pick for the people.
Post # 5
I wanted none, then Fi really wanted a best man, so we ended up with two each, then he added a third, so I have two, he has three. Ditto the “don’t ask for the sake of asking”. Two (or uneven) is just fine!
Post # 6
It definitely will NOT look weird to only have two attendants each. My husband and I each only had one (MOH and BM). I’m in a wedding this June where there’s only two on each side. So definitely don’t feel like you NEED to have three just to have more or something. Two is PLENTY!
And I agree with the others – pick people because you WANT them in your party and with you on your big day, not because you want a certain number of people.