Post # 1
I think too many months in Wedding World has clouded my reasoning skills. My shower’s in a couple months, it’s not a surprise and I’m happy with that. But my Future Mother-In-Law has only ever been to surprise showers and expressed confusion about whether I’ll “make an entrance,” which got ME stressed about it. Suddenly it seems weird that I’ll just be THERE already as the guests come into the party (it’s at a banquet hall), but I’ve never really heard of brides, like, making a grand entrance into their not-a-surpise showers, lol.
I mean, at graduation parties or birthday parties, the guest of honor is usually already there when the guests start arriving — is that how it is with the bridal shower when it’s not a surprise? Or do I show up late? Or what? If I’m overthinking it, please feel free to say so. Like I said, I think Wedding Brain is making me crazy.
Post # 3
I was already there. Well except when I left to go and pick up my family because they couldn’t find the church, but I was back before the start of the shower.
Post # 4
I have experienced the opposite…all the bridal showers I have arrived to (on-time) had the bride present already. I realize this is a reception type setting, and I don’t think you have to be there early, but I think you should arrive on time with the other guests.
Post # 5
My Maid/Matron of Honor, who is throwing my shower, has actually requested that I be there early, since I’m pretty much the only person who will know everyone. It made perfect sense to me – I don’t want my guests to feel awkward while they’re waiting for me to show up.
Post # 6
I’d talk to your bridal party and see what time they want you there. For my sister’s, she showed up about 20 minutes after the rest of the guests so she made her “entrance” but didn’t make people sit around all day waiting for her. But your Bridal Party might want you there early or on time, so make sure you’re all on the same page!
Post # 7
I agree, ask the party hosts when you should arrive.
I haven’t had a shower yet, but at our engagement party we showed up first (with my parents), and greeted each guest as they arrived.
Post # 8
the shower i’m having is at my house lol, so unless i duck out i’m going to be there when the guests arrive. The showers I’ve been to most of them the bride was alrady there, I only went to one where the bride made an appearance, but it was mainly becasue she was late from getting her hair done. 😉
Post # 9
I’ve been to one surprise shower where the bride showed up after the guests (obviously). All of the other showers the bride is there before any guests arrive to greet everyone.
Post # 10
My shower was not a surprise, and I asked my hostesses when they preferred I arrive (it was hosted at one of their homes). They requested that we show up last, so that they could welcome everyone, get the food and seating all set, and generally have everything prepared for the “guests of honor.”
I think it was very appropriate. Darling Husband and I made sure to socialize with every guest and thank them for being there, and I made a short speech when I presented the hostesses with their gifts to thank them (to acknowledge who was hosting).
I think it would have felt a little strange saying “hello, thank you for coming” as people walked in — that’s the host’s place, and I wasn’t hosting.
Post # 11
I greeted my shower guests as they arrived, and in my circle that has been the norm for non-surprise showers. The one time a bride arrived 20 or so minutes after the stated start time, it was kind of awkward because the party can’t really start without the guest of honor and nobody wanted to touch the food or drinks until she arrived, so there was a lot of just standing around.
Post # 12
I think my mom wants my shower to be a suprise, and most of it probably will be, but I don’t see how the actual date can be a suprise since I live/work 2 hours away from where it will be and will need to request of work since I work sundays and only come home if i take a long weekend or whatnot, because it’s just too hard to go home for one day with my work schedule
Anywho, to answer your question, most of the showers I’ve been to the bride was already there.