(Closed) When do u say enough is enough concerning rides given to friends???

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What is your limit concerning giving rides to friends??
    Give them rides no matter what, with or without money. : (7 votes)
    17 %
    Give them rides even if they didn't give me money. : (4 votes)
    10 %
    Give them rides only if they give money, I cant afford to be riding around. : (3 votes)
    7 %
    Gave rides,even with money, but just got sick of it so I STOPPED. : (11 votes)
    27 %
    Other, please explain. : (16 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
    405 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    What, so neither him nor his wife drive??

    Post # 4
    3261 posts
    Sugar bee

    Give them the number to a local cab service, that’s ridiculous.

    Post # 5
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think you are totally justified in being upset. Normally, I am all about helping friends with stuff like that, but if someone starts to take advantage I suddenly become very “busy” whenever they call.

    Post # 6
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i voted other – i dont mind helping a friend with a lift every now and then but im not a taxi service and i generally dont give friends money (because they dont ask)

    its a bad habit your Fiance needs to break – all he needs to do is say no a few times and these “friends” will find someone else to take advatage of

    Post # 8
    3220 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I’ll carpool with a friend if we’re going the same place, but I will never be a cab service. I also expect the friend to drive 50% of the time. 

    Also, you should see if this friend sticks around after your Fiance doesn’t give him money or rides? I have a feeling he’s just around for the perks and won’t be as good of a friend if your Fiance isn’t paying his way. 

    Post # 10
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m confused.  Mainly because any normal person would not ask for a ride constantly.  Your FI’s friend sounds like a deadbeat, and your Fiance needs to stand up for himself.  It’s not about the money, it’s a time factor too.  

    I, too, would be curious to see if this dude sticks around after your Fiance stops being his chauffeur. 

    Post # 11
    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    That drove me nuts in HS. I was the only one with a car and people wanted rides everywhere. After the new license glow wore off I refused unless I was already going there (and that included dropping people off who lived “on the way”). I just felt like they were taking advantage and I did not want to pay for the gas anymore. I also felt like a jerk asking for gas money and trying to figure out how much their ride really cost.

    Post # 12
    1160 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    “I’m sorry…I won’t be able to give you rides anymore, but if you are stuck I’d be happy to chip in and get you a bus pass for a month until you get back on your feet.”


    I love to drive, so I wouldn’t mind giving rides…it’s the “being used” aspect that would wear me down.

    Post # 13
    305 posts
    Helper bee

    there was a saying back in the 70’s

    ass, gas, or grass

    no one rides for free

    Post # 14
    305 posts
    Helper bee

    btw, i voted “other”


    Post # 15
    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I don’t mind helping someone out once in a while or sharing rides when we’re going to the same place, but I would certainly object at being taken advantage of, which is exactly what is happening here!   In high school, I was one of the last to get my license but I fortunately had a good friend who lived only a few blocks away from me and would usually pick me up.  I always gave her gas money though, even though she tried to refuse most of the time.  Now, I don’t think about gas money but I also don’t expect to be the one driving all the time (or expect someone else to drive ME all the time!)

    I agree with the PPs that your Fiance needs to just be ‘unavailable’ for the next several times he calls.  It is ridiculous that a grown man (and his wife!) rely on others to drive them around.   Fair enough if they don’t want to get their license, but then they better learn how the public transit system works.  

    Post # 16
    1433 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    @roxymalone:  Lol love that saying.

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