Post # 1
Hi there… we are on month 3 of TTC right now. Within the last month and a half- we bought a house- moved and are now settled into our wonderful 4bdrm home. We love it… but half of our TTC time has been fairly high-stress. I ovulated last week- and we had just moved. I’m now 9 DPO- and not having high hopes (I know… maaaaybe it couldve happened) but I’m just not feeling great about it.
Anyways, I know big whoop- 3 mos of TTC is really nothing. I’ve been off of BC for 6 or 7 mos and temping since then. Last month I added in using OPK’s. According to those sources- I’m ovulating as I should be- and I’m fairly healthy. I think my BC was doing some weird things to me last summer- and I had a bunch of tests ran- and everything checked back normal. I could lose weight for sure- but I’m working on it. I had a saline u/s to check out the lady parts- and everything checked out- everything seemed to be good.
I know that I’ve got to be patient. But, every month that passes- I feel… another month older… I know that’s silly but I’m 29. If we want more kids- we have to get this cracking. My husband doesn’t understand why I temp or use OPK’s- but he also thinks that if we just have unprotected sex any random day of the month- i Could probably get knocked up. He thinks if I just quit doing all of this “Scientific Stuff” and quit stressing about it- it’ll just happen. I’m not really THAT stressed about it- this “stuff” takes about 3 minutes of my day. I’m not necessarily obsessing or stressing about it- but I’ll admit it is starting to bug me. Most of my friends just say the words baby and they’re knocked up in about half a second. We just bought a 4bdrm house- I don’t want to have 3 guest rooms…. dangit!
Anyways, at what point should I consult my doctor to get some sort of intervention? I know on average it takes couples 6-12 mos…. I just don’t want to wait 12 mos of BFN’s and then get in touch.
Post # 3
You could always call your doctor just to see when they would see you. However, if you’re temping and charting other fertility signs (cervical mucus, cervical position) and timing BD well (every day when you have fertile CM), I would think you could make an appointment if you’re worried (I’m reading TCOYF and it says you could get checked after 4-6 months if you’re charting everything).
At the same time, I wouldn’t worry too much. Like you said, you’ve been stressed with moving and stuff the last few months. Maybe just relax and keep trying for a few months now that things have calmed down and just see what happens? And don’t worry about your husband being clueless about charting stuff – I feel like most guys think that they have super sperm and all you need to do is pull the goalie and they’ll knock you up
Post # 4
When I had my first prenatal planning appointment my doctor said if I was not pregnant after 6 months to come back in and we would discuss further options. I never made it that far, but I don’t think it would unusual to see a doctor at around that time frame. Good luck!
Post # 5
/ok, I’m actually switching OB/GYN’s after the saline ultrasound incident (ugh- horrible). I had and appointment in February to meet and discuss what all I needed to do just to start- and I cancelled it after exploring Fertility Friend and learning how to chart and all of the signs. I guess I’ll go ahead and maybe make an appointment for the end of the summer- and if I cancel/change the nature of the visit (which makes me SO excited btw) it so be it…. it took forever to get in for the first appt so I’ll just plan ahead.
Honestly, I’m wondering if I need to chat with DH about alcohol consumption. I’ve read it can really affect sperm count. I’m not blaming him- I may just be mis-timing it- but I might need to discuss that there are things that he can do to improve our chances also!
Post # 6
I am 28, almost 29 so right around the same age as you. I went to the doctor just to ask about TTC before we started and she told me not to come back unless we tried “naturally” for 12 months. Around here, they will not refer you to a fertility specialist until a year has passed, unless you are of “advanced age” (I think around mid-thirties).
Post # 7
I am 29, 30 in June. We are on our 10th cycle TTC. We decided to give it 6 months of TTC before talking to a doc. At 6 months I had blood work and DH had a SA. On cycle 9 I had a HSG. I am pretty certain AF will be here on Thursday. So cycle 11 I will be starting Clomid. It really depends on what your doctor says. I think it’s great that you are charting. Have your charts indicated O? Good luck!
Post # 8
I think it depends on how well your doctor is willing to work with you or not, some doctors like to wait at least a year to send you to have any kind of tests. You can start with your primary physician and ask to do a simple blood work to check everything, not only on you but also your DH. You know, just the normal stuff like cholesterol and sugar levels and all of that stuff. Try calling your doctor and see what else they can do for you or maybe they can start with your DH having a simple SA done.
I’ve been TTC now for 8 cycles/8 months and at Cycle 6 my doctor sent me to have CD3 blook work, pelvic and transvaginal ultrasound, HSG, and CD10 blood work. I passed with flying colors, so now its DH’s turn to have his SA done and blood work as well.
It never gets easier, I can assure you, that even though you dont think you are obsessing or putting pressure on yourself, you actually are with every BFN you get or everytime AF shows. Im there, believe me, its painful. Your DH might not understand it now, my DH didn’t either on our first cycles trying, but once he realizes it really isnt that easy as it seems,he might get more involved and will try to understand this “stuff”.
My DH is so involved now that he even takes my temperature ;)))
GL hun, and we are all here for you ;)))))))
Post # 9
I’m on cycle 9. I have been charting on and off and the last 4 cycles religiously, and I’m still not KU. From my charts everything seems to be working. I made an appt with my gyn in May. Maybe it will be an OB appt….but I’m not holding out hope.
I think its appropriate to give it at least until 6 months especially if you’ve been stressed out lately. But if you have the money and resources, its not going to hurt to go in. Its just if its taken longer there might be more of a pattern there to indicate whats going on.
Post # 10
Thanks guys! AF showed up this week… so back to the drawing board. As I look at my charts- I am definitely ovulating based on OPK’s and my temps. However, I’m noticing that my luteal phase (spelling..name…? ) is a bit short (on average its 12 days- but this month was only 9 days). I’ve got some vit B6 to see if I can extend that a bit. I think I am going to call my doctor just to see if they wnt to set up an appt at 6 mos/12 mos. whatever.
I’ve had some blood tests done in February (cholesteral, sugars, etc.) for just general reasons- healthy as can be. I had a full work-up done last July along with a drink the sugar drink test for glucose (dr thought maybe PCOS- but after an u/s and the glucose test- I was ok)… all came back great! But, I may need to start hinting at DH getting the same things checked out- IDK if he’s ever had that done.
I’m actually switching ob/gyn’s due to how unprofessional my long-time dr was with me during the whole summer incident. Long story. So, I honestly have no idea if this new dr will want to see me or not.
Thank you ladies for the support- I don’t have a lot of time to get on here— but it was so…. (is nice the right word) to know that I’m not the only person going through this!!!
Post # 11
I would just contact your doctor. When my mom’s good friend was having trouble, they told her that because she was 30, she only needed to be trying for 6 months before they would start help.