WHEN do you give the tip?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would give it the day of.  I didn’t tip my officiant though.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

renmich88:  I am curious about this stuff too. I’m in agreement about the officiant but I’m not sure what’s proper. And the photographer? I’m looking at one that is about $3,500…do you normally tip them on top of that too? Following this to hopefully get some answers too!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

renmich88:  Wow based on what you said I probably wouldn’t tip him. 

I am planning on doing tips the day of for most of the vendors, the officiant we will give a gift since he is a close friend.

Post # 6
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Newbee

I’ve also wondered on tips. I always thought you don’t tip an officiant, but give a donation to their church. Not sure what to do about an officiant who isn’t really a part of a church. I also thought you only tipped those vendors who do not work for themselves like if you go to a salon and get your hair and makeup done vs an independent hair and MUA. What about all inclusive venues? Do you tip them as well?

Post # 8
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Newbee

OK. I just looked up what my venue suggests and I looked around at The Knot’s tipping cheat sheet and on Martha Stewart. It looks like my tips are only going to be about $300. That’s not bad. My venue can add the tip to my total cost and then I give them the money to distribute to bartender and wait staff. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

renmich88:  I tipped my officiant $50. His fee was $400. All vendors received their tips in cash on the day of AFTER they performed their service.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

All our vendors received their tips in cash on the day of AFTER they had performed their services (like PP said). It was simple enough to have someone hand them out for us. I had them in envelopes and labled. All remaining balances had to be paid a month before the wedding. 

If they own their own company they do not need a tip. I did end up tipping the DOC, our officiant, ceremony musicians, and our reception band members, & MUA/hair stylist. 

If your ceremony musician doesn’t perform the way you think he should, I wouldn’t tip him. My vendors were all very professional and were amazing to deal with. Had they not been, they probably wouldn’t have gotten a tip!

 

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

renmich88:  I never heard all this about “tipping” until I joined the bee. If you pay someone for their services then a tip should not be considered a necessity. 

If you get married in your church, by your pastor, then I can see that the tip is customary but I am not paying an officiant $600 (that was our charge) to turn around and tip them $50 or $100 too. They got their money. 

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