Post # 1
So FI and are are doing a pretty low-budget, casual wedding next July and FI is fantastic in that he wants to help plan every little detail with me, which is great. However, since obviously he doesn’t have a say in the dress I’ll wear, it was decided that his attire would be entirely up to him as well. When we first talked about it, he was excited that he didn’t have to wear a tux. He decided that what he wanted to do was buy new suit pants, white button-up, vest, and blue tie (or bow-tie) from a department store (we went and looked around and found that the price is simmilar to or even less than renting a tux, so we’re thrilled with this aspect of it) and forego the jacket entirely.
Then, a couple weeks ago, he mentioned that he was thinking about doing a blue shirt w/ a white or orange tie (our colors are blue & orange, btw, so it would all technically work) and I pointed out to him that if that’s the case, I need to let my girls know so we don’t end up with two different shades of blue (I’m letting my sister/MOH coordinate dresses and basically gave her a range of shades of blue to choose from).
I think he’s thinking something like this, maybe?
Then last night, he called his cousin to ask him to be the ring bearer and the little guy got so excited and literally yelled, “yay, I get to wear a tux!”…so now FI is re-thinking the ENTIRE thing.
I told him he could 100% decide, and I’m trying really hard not to push him one way or another, but I do want to know and it seems like he’s changing his mind every other day. So my question for you, bees, when is too early to force him to make a decision? What do you think?
Post # 2
FYI…this is kinda what were’re thinking for bridemaids/flowers, though it won’t be floor-length gowns
Post # 3
We picked out his tux about 5 months out.. so I would say he still has a few months to decide on what he wants to do.
How formal is your wedding? Tuxs seem a bit more formal, while the look he was going for originally seems to fit more into your overall wedding scheme.
Maybe he could do tan or beige tuxes?
Post # 4
We did the guys tuxes about 3 months before I think – maybe not even that early. I know I was getting really annoyed about it.
If you’re going to ask the guys to go buy matching outfits, I would do it sooner than later to make sure that everyone can get the right stuff – I used to work at a clothing store and we would get groomsmen in all the time saying ‘they told me to buy pants XXXXX and shirt XXXXX’ with style numbers but they’d waited forever and we’d have to try and track down all the pieces for them.
The little guy will also probably be excited to just wear a suit 🙂
Post # 5
DH picked his out about 4 months in advance maybe? Maybe more like 3? He went with his wedding party and they helped try them on and pick them out.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
the ring bearer probably won’t know the difference between a tux or a suit or just dress clothes. Don’t let him sway your vision.
Post # 7
We went and ordered their suits (they just bought them) 2 months before the wedding. However, we didn’t know that the store wanted orders in 2 months before the wedding… so luckily we got them in just in time.
They came in 2 weeks before.
We got the ring bearer suits at Macy’s.
Post # 8
jenilynevette: That tux is really adorable and would make for a good compromise if he does decide to go with tuxes for a casual wedding.
MsGinkgo: I’m hoping that’s the case! I never thought any kid would actually WANT to be in a tux. (FYI, his mom mentioned that he’s been asking if the flower girls are “cute” …lol, the kid it 5!) I guess worst-case scenario, we could let the mini-James Bond have his tux while everyone else enjoys not wearing a jacket in July.
Swizzle: Maybe I can suggest we make a special trip to his hometown at a certain point before the wedding to take his whole wedding party shopping? We live 3-4 hours away, so it would both make sure everyone can get matching stuff in their own size and would be a good way to keep him from putting it off forever.
Post # 9
amanda.417: DH’s newphew wanted a tux but was super happy with the suit he got (he’s 8) same with my brother (7) – they both looked adorable. We got them smaller versions of the bouts the groomsmen wore. They weren’t our ring bearers – they were our ‘ushers’. There was a long walk from the gallery entrance to where the ceremony was, so they were leading the way – it was freaking adorable!
Post # 10
amanda.417: If it is truly a casual wedding, a tuxedo may be out of place.
If you want to get a good buy on pants and vests for a summer wedding, now would be the time to be looking. The best prices are always at the end of the season when stores clear out excess stock. You might find a fantastic buy.
If you want something very summery, e.g linen:
Several Bees have ordered the vest and pants set from http://www.studiosuits.com so you can find reviews on WeddingBee.
For $120 your guys can all have a set made to measure. You can choose the fabric.