(Closed) When do you know to just “let an issue go”?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I definitely agree with choosing your battles, and i think this is one that you should pick. Does he know that this would have sentimental value to you? I think its cooler to recieve china from someone thats being passed down than to go buy all new stuff. And if thats saving money, I think it makes sense. Even if he’s not super happy with it, 5 years from now I would imagine he isn’t going to hold that against you. I think as long as its not horribly hideous, than go for your mom’s china!

Post # 4
1154 posts
Bumble bee

It seems he is recognizing it – he agreed instead of saying “Aw, I want to keep the set we picked out”. 

I’m in a somewhat similar situation, my FI’s grandmother’s set was offered to us by his aunt – and it’s lovely and all but not at all my style – I was and am thrilled to accept it but I’d be lying if I said I don’t have a little bit of πŸ™ and sadness that I don’t get to pick something I really like.  The sentimental value is worth it (if it was just a matter of money I’d definitely get my own china) but the feeling of ‘damn’ is totally valid too.  So he expressed some sadness but agrees with you.  πŸ™‚  It’s a win.  Take the china but don’t be hard on him for liking what you picked out.

Post # 6
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Is there something that he has been wanting that you aren’t too thrilled about?  Maybe you can “give in” on that (as long as it’s not too crazy!).  That way you both can feel like you are gaining something.

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