When Do You Send Invitations??

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014


            2-3 months prior is about average from what I read. If you don’t send out STD’s than I would say 3 months.  You don’t want your guests loosing the invitation so you don’t want to send it out too early but not too late that you don’t have enough time to get responses back in the mail on time. We are sending out a few exteremly early as they live over seas but other than that the rest will be going out in June/July for our September wedding when we want our responses in by August 31st to have time to contact those whom don’t respond.

Post # 4
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant

I wouldn’t send them out later than like 2 months, just because people like time to plan ahead.  But if you sent out Save the Dates, I don’t think it’s really that big of a deal. 

We are not sending Save the Dates, so we are sending out our invitations 5 months in advance.

Post # 5
922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We didn’t do save the dates, we just told all of the out of towners personally. And I just mailed out our invites on last week, so about 10 weeks out fromt he wedding, with an RSVP deadline of 3 weeks from wedding

Post # 7
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@kat912:  I see your also getting married in May (not sure when) but we’re getting married over Memorial Day Weekend so since its a holiday weekend will be sending them out closer to 3 months in advance. If your sending yours out in a few weeks I’m sure you will be fine / falls in line with “etiquette”

Post # 8
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

We plan on sending ours out in a few weeks around the three month mark. We have a lot of out of town guests and a few international guests. We did send out save the dates but they seemed to confuse some people so I think they’ll be happy to get the invites sooner rather than later. I had one relative ask when my “Save the Date Wedding” was going to be…making it sound like that was the theme and a lot of other people thought it was the invitation but that I didn’t give enough information on it. It is both University of Wisconsin Graduation weekend and HS Prom weekend in our town the day of our wedding so I want to make sure we have everything settled as soon as possible and give people plenty of time to make arrangements. A lot of people already have though seeing as our hotel block is almost gone and after that the hotel is sold out for the weekend.


Post # 9
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I prefer three months as a guest. However, for international guests send four months if you sent a save the date and five to six months if you did not. 

Post # 10
895 posts
Busy bee

I sent mine out at 3 months before because our wedding the weekend before christmas, I honestly don’t think it made a difference at all. I think as long as you have them out around the 8 week mark you’re fine.

Post # 11
298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@kat912:  we did 3 months, and mostly bc of that darn knot email!! Haha. But I would say that 2 months will be fine, as  long as you still give them a generous return date of at least one month — which still gives you a month to finalize with vendors. Check your vendors-requirements and make sure, but I cannot imagine them wanting your final numbers more than 3-4 weeks ahead. 

Post # 12
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i sent mine out 2 months beforehand.

Post # 13
5432 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

We’re sending ours out 3 months before since we didn’t do STDs and we really want to send them 😀

Post # 15
1383 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m a May bride as well and I’m sending out of town ones the weekend of 3/8 and then the local ones the week after that (9 weeks ahead).  My mom really didn’t want the local people to receive their invites before my bridal shower for some reason (no clue, she was really adamant about this and I didn’t care so I said ok) but it will give my guests 2 months notice (we did STDs in October) and gives them a month before the RSVP is due (4/18).


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