When does it stop?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

She sounds like a PSYCHO!

I hope she leaves you alone soon!

Post # 4
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@MrsFarm0619:  I was being stalked on Facebook.  For this and many other reasos, I deleted my account.  Problems stopped, as this person had no access to me anymore.

Maybe just get off pintrest?

Post # 5
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

wow! She is crazy!! I have no advice, but I hope she stops soon!

Post # 7
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

What would deleting her account do? She’s watching her in her own yard. Does the ex know about it?

Post # 9
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

I was just thinking that deleting the account is one sure fire way to ensure that you are not easy to find.

Also…My restraining order is for 500 feet at all times….I would try to go to court and see if you can get a better RO.

You can’t just go to the police or call the cops and complain…been there, done that…You have to file a complaint with the court, meet with a counselor about it appointed through the court, and then get a court date.  You and this person will need to stand before a judge and THEN she will be read her rights and made to explain WHY she is stalking you.  Then, you can have an ironclad restraining order.

Good Luck!

Post # 10
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

PS I have no idea what this means:

I work within the legal/court system I know that I could not get an Ex Parte granted,

Are you telling me that there is NOTHING that can be done for you because you work in the court system?????? Yikes!!  I just don’t know what this means or how this can be right how awful.

Post # 11
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Sending you a PM


Post # 12
3128 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@veryberry13:  she knows she can’t get one because she works in the legal system and there haven’t been any threats yet.

Also, the woman lives across the street from her. A restraining order wouldn’t do much good in this situation.

OP, I am sorry you are going through this. I hope she gets bored and loses interest soon. Do you have a good security system, mace on your keyring, a personal weapon, ect? 

Post # 13
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

PM’d you as well! Sealed

Post # 14
2685 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would seriously consider moving. How weird is it to live across the street from your ex and his wife?!!

I would seriously consider it.

Post # 15
6407 posts
Bee Keeper

I would take it somewhat seriously because stalkers can be dangerous.

If you want to use Pinterest, I suggest you delete that account entirely, and start a brand new one with no obvious ties to you or your old account.

And I’d be on the alert for any signs that she may attempt to physically harm you. If so, you may need to move out of the area.

I’ve had a stalker before and after struggling with many ways to get him to leave me alone, and the police and others not really helping much at all, I finally hit on one strategy that worked: BORE THEM AWAY. Be as uninteresting as you could possibly be to her. Don’t show her anger, fear, happiness, mocking, ANYTHING, just be as dull as you possibly can be. Keep your information private as much as possible. Have your friends and family be aware that she is stalking you and be on the lookout for her getting into your business (this is to protect yourself), but don’t let her know that that’s the case. Don’t have anyone confront her or anything (as you want to be discouragingly dull).

My stalker is unforunately still out and about but has moved onto other targets (and now I’m sure there were others before me as well). Sadly there was nothing the system could do to protect me or stop him from that behavior but I didn’t get hurt and now it’s been years and I feel pretty confident that he’s forgotten all about me (at least to the point where he’s no longer motivated enough to try to find me again). I am a more private person now though, just in general with my information, so it would be a little harder for him, or for anyone, to stalk me, and I like the peace that that provides.

Good luck!

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