Post # 1
So today was a moderately crap-tastic day. I didn’t get a position I was excited about, and then to cheer myself up I went to go pick up my ring from the jewelers where it was getting molded so they could make my wedding band to match up with it. Well, their wax mold was not what I’d wanted/described, and it was likely due to ‘miscommunication’ (i.e.- we did what you said, you must just not have said it right *that’s not that they said, but how I felt after the day I’ve had*). So rather than having them keep my ring and redo the whole thing, I suggested a few changes to what they had and decided to roll with it. I just wasn’t up to giving up my ring another week and making someone redo work they’ve already started.
Well, I get back to SO’s house, feeling crappy, and I get a big ol’ hug from Future Mother-In-Law who tells me to call them back ASAP and have them meet me again tomorrow. I’ll be wearing this the rest of my life and it needs to be right. She also gave me a sweet pep-talk about my disappointing news on the position, and then was super jazzed when I showed her our finished wedding website. She was just a sweet pick-me-up sort of lady today, and sometimes a mom-hug is the best, even if it’s not your mom but your (F)MIL.
Do any of you bees have fabulous MIL/FMIL stories to share? Sometimes they get such bad raps, but hey, we all may be one someday, and we’re not all bad 😉
Post # 3
That was sweet of her. Sorry about the position, but I really agree with your Future Mother-In-Law. Even if it means giving your ring up for another week, make them do what you want. You’re going to wear it for the rest of your life!
On Monday I went in to visit and sleep at home because my inconsiderate roommate was throwing a birthday party on a Monday night. I know her friends are loud and stay late, and I couldn’t handle it. FMIL was making cheesecake bars for her Bible Study, and she packed me a travel container to bring back with me. I ended up slitting it with Fiance, but it was such a nice gesture. I love when she/Gram/FI pack me little things to bring to school because they know how much I hate leaving there and coming here!
Post # 4
My Future Mother-In-Law is the sweetest lady ever! She actually didn’t like me at first, but we figured it out and worked it out. I come from an upper middle class family (at the time my family was, we are no longer that due to the economy and other circumstances) but I came off as this little rich girl and she hated it coming from a small-town farming family. She eventually realized that I wasn’t really like that, and we overcame it. For our wedding, I really wanted to use milk glass for the vases. My Future Mother-In-Law now owns an antique store and quickly set aside all of her milk glass for the wedding. She even turned down an offer from someone who wanted to buy it all (they offered 700 for it! So she gave up quite a bit of money). My mother is one of those people who are kind of self-involved (don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my mother, but she is very self-centered.), and doesn’t really care about hearing about the wedding (because apparently it’s not a big deal that her eldest is getting married and that both of my brother’s weddings have been courthouse weddings so mine is the first actual ceremony and reception- heck she isn’t even really all that excited about the fact that my brother and his wife are expecting the first grandchild of the family, says she will only be super excited when it’s one of her girls giving birth (UGH!)), but my Future Mother-In-Law loves to hear about every detail, and asks me questions all of the time. She loves the creativeness and informalness (Is that a word??) that my Fiance and I are putting into the wedding, even standing up for us to his grandmothers who think its atrocious that I’m wearing blue shoes or that the groomsmen are wearing converses. She thinks its quaint and charming. I seriously am getting the best in-laws every, and I’m so thankful for that!
Post # 5
Yay! I’m glad there’s other gals out there who have good stories about MILs. Mr.ND’s mom has been so cute, always saying “I don’t want to be that lady.”
Post # 6
I LOVEEE my Future Mother-In-Law. She’s been calling me her ‘daughter’ for years now and she’s in my phone as ‘other mother’ lol. She’s just an overall sweet lady and she loves me to death. FI’s an only child and his mom always wanted a daughter/little girl (she sometimes calls me “little girl” because I’m 4’11 1/2″). We often spend time together without FI– such as last weekend, she went with me to pick up my dress! I call her sometimes when I’m upset, and she tells me when she’s having a bad day. In one way, she’s like a mom, and in another way, she’s like a good friend.
I hear so many awful, sad stories about MILs and I’m soooo glad I’ve got a wonderful one who I adore!
Post # 7
So sorry about the position. You’ll find something else. I also have an awesome MIL!
Post # 8
My Mother-In-Law is awesome too. She’s super understanding and supportive of me and she worked so hard to throw me an awesome shower in DH’s hometown. She always makes me feel welcome and special, like everything I say is the most interesting thing she’s ever heard.
Post # 9
I have lived in a different state than my Future Mother-In-Law for the past year and she is so good about sending me nice cards and birthday and valentines gifts. She’s always very encouraging and reminds us that it is our wedding and that we should do what we want. I’m glad I don’t have one of those nightmare Future Mother-In-Law stories that I feel too many people have. Bees, we’re very blessed to have great FMILs!!! 🙂
Post # 10
My Future Mother-In-Law is awesome. We have so much fun together. Last weekend her and my Future Sister-In-Law went and bought all the stuff we needed for the bathroom baskets and put together all the oot boxes. I live in the DC area and they live in California. They wanted to make sure Fiance and I didn’t have much to do the week of the wedding. How sweet?!
Post # 11
I couldn’t be luckier with my Mother-In-Law. She is an incredible woman – strong, independent, accomplished and generous. As an example, she is COO of a large battered women’s shelter, she is president of the local boat club and studying for her captain’s license (very demanding!), and she can accomplish more in one day than I can get done in a week.
I am fortunate that she loves and respects me in return. A couple of months after the wedding, she posted on my FB wall that every time she hears my processional song (“I’m Yours” by Jason Mraz), she sees me standing at the end of the aisle, “radiant and glowing with love and happiness” and then pictures her son “mirroring that look as he watches you.” She finished with “U r special.” It made me cry!
Post # 12
Aw, such sweet stories about more fabulous ladies! I agree with you, @Mrs.LilyLunaLove:, we’re some blessed ladies!
Post # 13
My bf mom is just great, at first I wasn’t sure what she thought of me because she loved my bf’s ex (who he dated for quite a while). While I don’t see her that often because they live states away, everytime I see her she makes me feel so welcome. Hopefully whenever I start planning our wedding, she will continue to be as awesome as she is now. BF’s older brother got married a year or so ago and his wife didn’t include her at all in any of the planning, so since she has no daughters to plan for, I think she will be happy to be included in mine, whenever it finally happens.
Post # 14
My Future Mother-In-Law is amazing. Last week she threw a dinner party to introduce me to their family friends, letting me know that all have expressed interest in helping with food and set-up at our wedding. She’s incredibly thoughtful at all times.
Post # 15
I LOVE this thread!
@NotYourTypicalBride : That FB post from your Future Mother-In-Law is SOOO sweet!! (Almost made ME cry!!)
@SoonToBeeMrsD : Our mothers could be sisters! haha i LOVE my mother more than anything–but my brother is graduating high school this year and she is MUCH more caught up in planning that graduation party this June! Which I TOTALLY understand… our wedding isn’t until April 2012 so after June I’m sure she’ll turn around for me….but how often does your one and only daughter get married?! haha!
Marrying into a great family is SUCH a blessing!! I am marrying my FMIL’s oldest of three sons, and needless to say she has been the absolute best! Having no daughters of her own, she jumps at every opportuinty to bond and plan and talk about the wedding! At my last few dress appointments, after dropping her off, my BMs always tell me how very lucky I am to have such a great relationship with my Future Mother-In-Law. She is one of the most down-to-earth, collected, easy-going and understanding people I know. I even had a dream one night that my Fiance took off before the wedding with one of my very best friends, (which would NEVER happen btw) so I started dating his BROTHER because I didn’t want to chance not being a part of their family! HA! They sure got a kick out of that! ESPECIALLY his brother 😉 We are truely very blessed to have such great women in our lives !!