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Isn't it cute when guys who are ready for fatherhood are so giddy about it?  My husband is the same way.  He's been very loving and supportive through my mood swings and intestinal changes and everything else that comes with the territory. 

Yes, in some ways, I am more the 'pessimist'--always thinking about finances, health and practical stuff, but that's the way I am in our regular relationship, too.  I think my brain can handle the hard realities.  We've recently figured that out... I don't bring up as many of the bad things with him, but I do make sure to have a support system to talk to about those things.  He sees enough of the hormonal and physical changes, and for not carrying this baby like I am, has expressed a ton of interest and excitement.  For me, that's a valuable counterpoint to the sobering reality of having a baby.

My husband, who is the step-father of my two daughters, is also super giddy and excited with my being pregnant with his first child. For the most part I'm okay with it, but I do get kind of annoyed sometimes.  He and my younger daughter think morning sickness and dry-heaving is the most hilarious thing they've ever seen & heard, so they're bonding over that while I'm just feeling crappy. Sometimes, I catch him watching me like a lovesick little puppy, and when I ask him what the hell is wrong with him, he just sighs and tells me I'm so beautiful and he's so lucky I'm having his baby, or he'll tell the girls, "your mom is so pretty." I know I should be all flattered and grateful, but right now, I feel like a blobby science experimemt, so it annoys me. I usually snap back at him with something super gross about being pregnant, and how does he feel about that? He thinks it's soooo funny.

He's actually also the one who's more worried about health and finances. I'm considered high-risk and have to have ultrasounds every two weeks and we have to travel to see a Perinatologist a few times. Well, I argued with my dr that I didn't think that all the testing and appts were neccesary, but he totally took their side and he's doing research on all the little health issues that could pop up. Whatever. I don't worry about $ by nature so that's all him.

With my first daughter, her father went through a fairy tale period. We had only been casually dating. He was really excited and daydreamy about it. And then one day it hit him, and he was literally like "oh shit," only whatever that would be in spanish. So, it caught up with him. I'm sure your husband will come around to reality in his own time!! He sounds like a total sweetheart!!