Post # 1
I have my issues, I think everyone does. But my SIL is SO insecure about most things, and obsessive about her weight. She is a step-mom to my 6 year old niece and nephew (7), and we can see the impact its had on them (kids don’t talk about calories at every meal on their own!) SIL is also TTC, which I can’t imagine her doing i a healthy way.
My question is, are these kids (girls especially) going to be as scarred by this insecurity and vocal weight obsession as I think? have any of you grown up with this? What can I do to help? I do everything I can think of when we see my niece but I worry about her.
It kind of reminds me of this scene from Little Miss Sunshine and the chocolate ice cream!
Post # 3
@edgebee: That stuff totally has an effect on kids 🙁 my mom was like that and i cant even begin to tell you the issues i have.
DH has been very clear that he does not want me to EVER say anything about my weight or negative body image when we have kids..
It really is sad when i think about it.. :/
Post # 4
@edgebee: …every parent, no matter how well intentioned WILL screw up their kids in some way or another…as adults we either move past it or emulate it, which is fine, because life isn’t fair and people do the best with what they’ve got….
But if you see something like that happening, try to do your best to be a role model for different eating habits and body image when you can without directly confronting her mother.
Post # 5
I think it’s great to talk to kids about health and live it out. It’s good to provide them with balanced meals and make sure they know how to eat healthy, as well as how to exercise and be active. But this focus would be on health and fitness – NOT weight. Having everything weight focused is so damaging because it makes kids think they have to be a certain size. You can eat rabbit food all day and run marathons and still be considered overweight, just as you can eat chips all day and stay on the couch and be thin. Size isn’t what matters, and kids shouldn’t be focused on their size or restricting their calories, especially with their growing bodies.
I don’t know what you can do other than be a good role model. Show them that you’re confident with yourself and your body.