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That really sucks, so frustrating! Do you kno if he has the ring or not? I think once they get the ring in hand, it burns a hole in the pocket, so if he has the ring then I would bet it would be in NYC...try not to think about it tho bc if you're disappointed, the weekend won't be as much fun (or you could be like me and have a total meltdown after think a certain night was when it was going to happen...) Hang out here and vent, most have been in your shoes :)
Thanks runrgurl10... I don't think he has a ring yet.... just hanging in there I guess.
I feel your pain, nanguye3. Did you talk to him about your concerns? I felt awful until I finally broke down and just told him what was on my mind. I wasn't trying to push him, and I made that clear, but I needed him to know what was bothering me. It turns out he had no clue that I was feeling so anxious about the plans for our future. He had been going along thinking everything was fine. I can't say it's helped push things along, because that conversation was nearly two months ago (wow, when I type that, it doesn't sound too long) and I'm still waiting. But I am hoping that he will "make moves" now that he knows my true feelings.
Best of luck to you! And I have to say that I am jealous of you going into the Peace Corps, it's been a dream of mine but unfortunately it has to wait. I would love to hear more about it!
I started telling, or more like complaining, whenever another friend of mines got engaged and I still haven't. I actually asked him about a week ago if he was even going to propose this summer because I need to know. He said, "Probably not." From then on I was sOoo sad and upset. And literally, another friend got engaged this past week. It was even harder when we went to his co-workers get together and the females of the night were jibber-jabbering about their honeymoon and purchasing a house. We were the only ones there, beside the host, who weren't engaged or married.
As for the Peace Corps, if you do decide to do it, maybe you end up getting married and you both want to do, you can! Married couples can join the Peace Corps together!
It sounds like he's not ready and complaining isn't going to get you very far. Most of us have "been there, tried that" and it just annoys then more than anything. Too bad it isn't very effective =].
There is always a reason why the man hasn't proposed--he can't afford the ring yet, he's planning, he's not ready, etc. Is your boyfriend 22 also? He may just not be ready. You don't really "need to know" unless you guys have planned a wedding for a specific time frame. Have you guys actually sat down and talked about getting married and when you'd like to and other serious talks? What you'll do when you get back form the Peace Corps, etc? Maybe he doesn't think you'll be able to plan a wedding easily while you're gone and in the Peace Corps so he has decided it's best to wait to propose to you. Really, maybe he can't afford the ring yet or, like many of my friend's boyfriends, he wants to pay for it without financing it or wait so he can buy you a nicer one.
Long distance is tough, if there's a ring on your finger or not. Been there, done that, and the ring makes you difference, I promise. It's the same difficult battle. Sit him down and be like, "look, I need to know where this is going" because it's not fair for him to tell you when he'll propose and not, but it's also not fair if you're not on the same page. If he says he's not ready or he'll propose within a year or something, that's one thing. You don't know what he's thinking unelss you ask! =]
He finally proposed!! In NYC!!! On a Horse-drawn carriage ride!!! In Central Park!
It was really beautiful! Thank you for keeping my spirits up! I feel really resassured now that HE thinks we can make it through our years apart!
Here are some pictures!! Enjoy! 
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OH YAAAAAY!!!! He was just trying to throw you off when you asked him if was going to, I'm so happy for you!! Show us the ring!!! :)
Thank you!! YES!! I was really surprised!! I kept saying... "Are you seriously? Really? Are you sure?!... YES!!!!"
haha nanguye3 that was my EXACT reaction when my boy proposed... I even said, "Is this a joke?"
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHAT A GORGEOUS RING!!!
<<I actually asked him about a week ago if he was even going to propose this summer because I need to know. He said, "Probably not.">>
Ohhh that little weasel!!! My heart jumped when I read your post that he proposed! That is sooo awesome. Congrats!! Was it a total suprise then? Did you have any idea he had the ring?!?! HOW EXCITING!!!! ::sigh:: There is hope for us after all...
Oh sooooo exciting!
Congrats and your ring is GORGEOUS!
I dated a guy like that before I met FI.
Sorry, but he's not going to propose. You've been together almost 5 years and you already live with him. What reason does he have to propose at this point? My ex bf and I were together about that long and he demanded I live with him for a few years before he'd even consider it. I refused. He cheated. End of story.
FI & I were dating a year to the date when he proposed. We do not live together. He respected my wishes there.
Some men want marriage, some don't. You know the old story, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? I think many men fall into that.
*hugs* I hope it works out for you but if marriage is what you want and he doesn't propose in NYC, I'd seriously consider leaving before wasting any more time.
Leave it to the guy to surprise you when you least expect it! Congrats and gorgeous ring!
Congrats!! My now FI did the same thing to me. He made me think that he wasn't going to be able to afford the ring, and we would have to wait. So I resigned myself to waiting, and then he pops the question! He sat on my ring for a MONTH! These boys are weasels.. :)
These posts are my favorites! The ones where they try to get encouragement from the hive b/c the proposal seems so far off, and then oops! He told you all of that stuff to throw you off! I loved the "probably not" comment he made. Men love to make us so oblivious so that they can surprise the heck out of us!
CONGRATULATIONS!!! Oh and gorgeous ring! I love it!
Oh congrats!! I was reading the start of this post and feeling bad for you and remembering that awful feeling but now I'm sooo happy for you!
and Kudos to you for going into the Peace Corps!
Congrats!! What a sneaky guy... 
p.s-- I brought up going into the Peace Corps after marriage and he was so excited! Hopefully it's something we can do together after he gets out of the army. Thanks for the tip!
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So, it seems like everyone around me is getting proposed this summer. Literally, 9 of my friends got engaged so far, and me? Nothing. We've been together for a little over 4 1/2 years.
The sad part is that when we talked about engagement last year, he said we would get engaged after graduation, and move in together for the summer before I'm off to grad school. Well, we graduated this past May and still nothing. I even moved in with him, totally ignoring the fact that I wanted to be engaged before I moved in with him.
Now it's August and I'm leaving on the 22nd to go to a city 9 hours away for a year and then 2 years in the Peace Corps. He was very supportive of my endeavors and we talked about him waiting for us to get married when I get back.
On top of that, I thought that I was going to be engaged before going to NYC for my cousin's wedding. I wanted him to see where I grew up and for my extended family to meet him as well, if we were totally set in stone. We're leaving on Wednesday and he still hasn't proposed.
Now I'm just hoping he's going to propose in NYC, but I'm not sure if he's going to do it. I'm leaving in a few weeks and it's going to be so tough being long distance (especially when I leave for the Peace Corps).
What do you ladies think?