(Closed) When is HE going to PROPOSE?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

That really sucks, so frustrating! Do you kno if he has the ring or not? I think once they get the ring in hand, it burns a hole in the pocket, so if he has the ring then I would bet it would be in NYC…try not to think about it tho bc if you’re disappointed, the weekend won’t be as much fun (or you could be like me and have a total meltdown after think a certain night was when it was going to happen…) Hang out here and vent, most have been in your shoes 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I feel your pain, nanguye3.  Did you talk to him about your concerns?  I felt awful until I finally broke down and just told him what was on my mind.  I wasn’t trying to push him, and I made that clear, but I needed him to know what was bothering me.  It turns out he had no clue that I was feeling so anxious about the plans for our future.  He had been going along thinking everything was fine.  I can’t say it’s helped push things along, because that conversation was nearly two months ago (wow, when I type that, it doesn’t sound too long) and I’m still waiting.  But I am hoping that he will “make moves” now that he knows my true feelings. 

Best of luck to you!  And I have to say that I am jealous of you going into the Peace Corps, it’s been a dream of mine but unfortunately it has to wait.  I would love to hear more about it!

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It sounds like he’s not ready and complaining isn’t going to get you very far. Most of us have “been there, tried that” and it just annoys then more than anything. Too bad it isn’t very effective =].

There is always a reason why the man hasn’t proposed–he can’t afford the ring yet, he’s planning, he’s not ready, etc. Is your boyfriend 22 also? He may just not be ready. You don’t really “need to know” unless you guys have planned a wedding for a specific time frame. Have you guys actually sat down and talked about getting married and when you’d like to and other serious talks? What you’ll do when you get back form the Peace Corps, etc? Maybe he doesn’t think you’ll be able to plan a wedding easily while you’re gone and in the Peace Corps so he has decided it’s best to wait to propose to you. Really, maybe he can’t afford the ring yet or, like many of my friend’s boyfriends, he wants to pay for it without financing it or wait so he can buy you a nicer one.

Long distance is tough, if there’s a ring on your finger or not. Been there, done that, and the ring makes you difference, I promise. It’s the same difficult battle. Sit him down and be like, “look, I need to know where this is going” because it’s not fair for him to tell you when he’ll propose and not, but it’s also not fair if you’re not on the same page. If he says he’s not ready or he’ll propose within a year or something, that’s one thing. You don’t know what he’s thinking unelss you ask! =]

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

OH YAAAAAY!!!! He was just trying to throw you off when you asked him if was going to, I’m so happy for you!! Show us the ring!!! 🙂

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Congrats!  It’s beautiful!!!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

haha nanguye3 that was my EXACT reaction when my boy proposed… I even said, “Is this a joke?”

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHAT A GORGEOUS RING!!!

Post # 15
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Worker bee

<<I actually asked him about a week ago if he was even going to propose this summer because I need to know.  He said, “Probably not.”>>

Ohhh that little weasel!!! My heart jumped when I read your post that he proposed! That is sooo awesome. Congrats!! Was it a total suprise then? Did you have any idea he had the ring?!?! HOW EXCITING!!!! ::sigh:: There is hope for us after all…

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh sooooo exciting!

Congrats and your ring is GORGEOUS!

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