When is it 'right' to call the cops?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If things were getting really loud and out of hand I will call the police. 

If there isn’t actually any abuse/violence going on then they will learn to quiet down, if there is abuse then it will be a very good thing you called.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think if there is a legitimate threat of danger then you should call. I probably wouldn’t call over a couples spat though unless there were serious threats being made or physical abuse taking place. Some people just have crazy fights.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@MsGinkgo:  hmmm…that’s a tough situation. What you might be able to do is call the police precinct and let them know your concerns. They might be able to give you some advice on handling the situation. 

 

If it was just arguing I’d say leave it, but because you seem concerned about maybe violence/physical fighting, it worries me and makes me think a call to the police for advice might be a good thing. Good luck 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Our old roommates used to fight loudly quite often.  We stayed out of it because we didn’t want to get involved.  However, if at any time I was concerned for one or both person’s physical safety, I would call the police to report it.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Unless I heard screaming like she was actually being physically hurt, I wouldn’t call the police.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MsGinkgo:  Call. I’ve been on the other end (there was abuse involved) and the cops showing up was the best thing that could’ve happened since I was unable to call myself and wasn’t allowed to leave. I agree with PP that even if it isn’t an abusive situation it will at least teach that they cannot be that loud/disrespectful to everyone around them. I would also double check to see what the laws in your state are – I know some states if there is a domestic disturbance call, they have to remove someone from the home legally. 

Post # 10
Hostess
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I don’t really hesitate to call the cops.

I have had my unpleasant share of dealing with loud parties, loud neighbors or argumentative couples and at this point I’m over it. If the cops show up and nothing wrong is occuring then they just leave hopefully with the people getting the point that their neighbors are less than thrilled.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

@MsGinkgo:  If you aren’t worried about the noise I wouldn’t call unless you clearly heard a threat or hitting.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

@MsGinkgo:  I’d suggest better safe than sorry.  As someone who has been in an abusive situation I would have been horrified if the cops were called but it probably would have put him in check. I have been in the unfortunate situation of even having the phone in my pocket but not able to dial covertly for help and too scared to do it in front of him :/  I couldn’t leave either because he was blocking me. I was hoping someone would come to the door 🙁

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MsGinkgo:  I’d follow your instinct.  If your gut tells you to call the cops, do it!!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

is this a real question?

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

@MsGinkgo:  I’d say call. Abusive situations are hard to get out of. When I was in one I couldn’t call the police even when he wasn’t around.  If you call the police & someone needs help you would have done them a great favor.  My greatest hope is that the police know how to get the true story & help the victim out. EDIT: I am sure the neighbors heard the shouting but no help ever came. 🙁

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

If the fighting is really intense, I’d call, personally. And here’s why (the short version):

We had terribly loud downstairs neighbors. I’ve never heard this kind of fighting before. Like you, it wasn’t so much the noise (well, sometimes it was — the screaming was all hours of the day), but the fear of what may be happening down there. We mentioned it to our complex management several times, but we were never sure when to go ahead and call the police.

In retrospect, I really wish I had. We found out recently that the man downstairs was not only screaming at his wife, but hitting her as well. We couldn’t hear the hitting. She never cried out in pain. We just heard him yelling.

I was heartsick when I found out (and still am). I wished I’d called. Maybe I could have prevented some of her pain.

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