Well, I think you got your answer about the Relationship Status.
Guys tend to be of the mindset that when they meet a Girl they like that they want to show her off / introduce her around to their Friends.
And subsequently Family.
Which usually means they are “smitten” on you
What you do with this info is up to you… beyond deciding if you’ll be going to the Wedding.
Sounds like it is time to sit down and have a bit of a talk about “What exactly are we doing here ? How do you view US and our Relationship Status ?”
Then you’ll know for sure.
That doesn’t have to be a heavy duty thing BTW… it doesn’t naturally mean that things automatically have to go barrelling forward at 90 Miles an Hour… you can certainly still set the pace
Mr TTR & I had the “We are Exclusive” convo pretty early on in our Dating (but then again we were friends before we dated) and as we had quite a few common friends there weren’t a whole lot of intros (but I did meet his Adult Children within a month or so)
I was sort of like you in some ways… I was quite gun-shy having come off a horrid Divorce… so I told him I was ok with being Exclusive (actually happy) BUT that I was very unsure where I wanted the Relationship to go… I just wanted to take things slow, and make decisions as things unfolded (that was a risk for him… but he was willing to take it to date me)
And as Encores… I also talked about Marriage (You being previously Engaged might want to have a similar convo about Engagements / Marriage / Serious Relationships in the future)
I told him that I wasn’t fully opposed to Marriage, but it wasn’t something I was thinking about at the time… I just wasn’t putting it on the table any time soon… I needed to just be me and date in a carefree way (have a bit of fun) without a lot of pressure from a Man for awhile.
He understood… said he himself as a Divorced person could fully relate. He wasn’t against Marriage either, but it would take “someone special” to have his heart open that far again.
I understood fully what he meant.. Marriage was still on the table… IF the right person came along.
And so it was… no pressure. We dated happily for many years with this arrangement eventually moving in together etc.
After 6 Years of Dating, I came to realize I wanted more… I wanted to be married again. I shared my LIFE PLAN and TIMELINE with him… and he was thrilled, totally agreed. We were married within a year.
The point is.. when the right person comes along, they won’t care so much about all your baggage / insecurities… they’ll not want to rush you… they’ll be quite content to wait just because you are in their life. And coming to the conclusion to marry will be a gradual thing that you both grow into… it will be surprisingly easy to move in that direction and not a huge surprise when it happens.
Hope this helps,
PS… I just clicked back on the link you provided… I remember your story (you were Engaged to “the Knot guy”).
I am sooo happy to hear you are doing well… that news truly made my day !!