Post # 1
Here we go again. We started opening RSVPs today and bridezilla is back. This is not ok! I am inviting kids (against my wishes) and I was hoping that at least some people would leave the kids at home. No luck so that pissed me off. then to make it even more fun 4 extra people have been “written in”. I know them but the point is the invite was clearly addressed to you not your 3 college aged children! Not your 15 year olds girlfriend! I lost it crying yelling I called my mom and she is fine with it. They are paying and we have the space so I should be fine with it but I am not! This is my wedding after all shouldn’t I have a say! This crazy.
Then I am crying because I am such a b&$Ch to my Fiance and mom. I should be happy this is my only wedding and I have somany people who want to come but I am literally always pissed ofF or crying. I took last week off of wedding planning to help me deal obviously that didn’t work…I don’t know what to do. I am scared that these feelings are going to make it impossible for me to enjoy the day. Besides my dress I am not excited about anything honestly I feel like itseveryone’s else’s party I am just there.
Post # 3
Take a deep breath. There’s room for them and the person paying can foot the bill. Is it that the wedding is bigger than you wanted? Is it that you’re just annoyed they are ignoring etiquette?
The day of, all that will matter is that the people you love are there (it won’t matter that people you don’t love so much are also there) and that you are marrying your Fiance. Hang in there.
Normally, btw, I’d say to put your foot down and politely call the people and say you couldn’t accommodate the extra guests, but if your mom is paying and is okay with it, then I don’t think you have much support here.
Post # 4
@NAvery: +1. This is very good advice. ((hugs))
Post # 5
Bright side.. you probably won’t even notice them if you’re having a medium to large sized wedding. I realized at our engagement party, which was only like 40 people – it was so hard to get around and talk to any one for any length of time, and after the fact I felt I had spent the whole evening trying and not spent enough time with my Fiance (as evidence in our photos from that night – we were all over the place but rarely together – note to self: hold hands throughout wedding mingling). So now, our 140-person wedding I’ve realized is going to be that TIMES 3! Probably won’t get to spend much time with anyone in particular, just hopefully my hubby :-).
I totally agree with how you feel… but just saying, it might not end up being too big of an impact on your day when all is said and done.
Post # 6
@NAvery: Nothing additional to say beyond this