When it comes to "waiting"………….

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Stranger516:  I totally feel your pain. SO and I have been dating for 7 yrs 3 months (as of today haha), and we are finally just about to get engaged (he has the ring, just waiting for him to hand it over!). But it wasn’t until like…March of this year that he started to be okay with seriously talking about marriage. And we’ve lived together since Oct 2010! I’m 25, and he’s turning 25 tomorrow, so we’re fairly close to your age as well.

Trust me, I’ve done that “do I really need to get married?” dance as well. I knew he was committed. He was willing to let me quit my job and move to another state to basically financially support me while I go to grad school…but couldn’t talk about marriage. It was weird. He also wanted to live together before getting engaged, but it certainly didn’t happen right away.

After awhile I realized his issue wasn’t with having a future with me (he’s cool with talking about buying a house, kids, etc), but the whole wedding aspect was intimidating for him–he doesn’t really like being the center of attention. I assured him that we’ll make it as painless as possible! lol

But…just keep the lines of communication open. It totally sounds like your guy is committed to you, he’s just not quite at the engagement point yet. But he’ll get there, and it’s totally worth the wait!!


Post # 4
1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You’re still both very young and even though you’ve been together for a long time, a good chunk of that was when you were teenagers. And you’re only just starting to live together now. It actually sounds pretty sensible of your bf to wait until you’re both settled in your lives before proposing. Im 28 and FI and I were together for nearly 6 years before he proposed. I know that it was because our lives were so up in the air for a few years (moving to the other side of the world for example). Im happy that we waited because now we know that our futures are secure. 

You are so young still. Be patient, it will come when the time is right. 

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