(Closed) When it rains it pours…:(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow, I’m so sorry! I don’t know what to tell you that will help other than stay as strong as possible and we Bee’s are always here to listen. ((HUGS))

Post # 7
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1359 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Do you live in Florida right now? Or is your ex trying to get full custody?

 

If you both currently live in Florida and share custody of your daughter … I’m sorry but I think it is wrong for you to move to LA and separate your daughter from her father, especially as you say he has been involved in her life. I know you want to be with your FH and you probably have an exciting life waiting for you in LA, and that’s hard. But think about how you would feel if your ex tried to take your daughter and move really far away. No way would you be okay with it. And unfortunately your daughter’s interests (being close to her dad) must come first ….

 

Will your FH not move to be closer to you instead of vice verse?

Post # 8
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4824 posts
Honey bee

It sounds like your mother doesnt want you to move and is using your ex and the custody battle to prevent it.  Its best to speak to her and explain to her why you think this move is for the best.  

Of which I have to ask, is it? If dad is a good dad, why would you want to move your child so far away? Be sure you are moving for all the right reasons, not just because you want to. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee

@Karissa: Well that certainly isnt a good role model!

Post # 13
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Honey bee

@Karissa: Well generally, its not about you or him, but whats best for her in these situations…  which may be the same as what is best for you. But if it comes down to it the court will decide anyway if he doesnt want to give you permission.

I assume that he cant move to FL?  Good Luck

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

@Karissa: He has nothing to offer your daughter? I could have sworn that you said he is a good father. And that he loves his daughter. I know you feel bad about your mother being the leak in your circle and that sucks. However, if your daughter’s father were my brother, I would tell him not to let his daughter to move out to a place where he can’t see her often. You said you have her every other week so that means he has her every other week. Imagine seeing your daughter that often to seeing her sporadically because she is out of state? I don’t blame him for fighting to keep her with him. It sucks all the way round because you feel like your life is on hold, trust me, I’ve been there. But you know what, time will go by and like as not, the court is going to decide soon. I hope it’s something all parties will be satisfied with.

Post # 16
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299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i am sorry that you are in this very difficult position-but I agree with PP, are you really considering your daughters best interests? I don’t want to sound like I am criticizing you – only you know exactly what you are going through, but I can’t help but feel this isn’t fair for your daughter. She’s a child and I think she needs to be the priority. I think its unfair to relocate her away from her father. I am a school counselor, and I see the effects of similar situations on children all the time. Its not a pretty outcome for them – they suffer and usually end up resenting one of you. This is your decision and of course depending on the courts decision at this point, but if I were in your position I would work it out so that FI moves to me. Is this possible at all in the future? 

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