(Closed) When it's not the in-laws that are the problem… (Family not supportive)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

Unfortunately you can’t make someone excited about something. It is probably more a reflection of your parents personalities than them not being supportive/nice. Your FI’s family sounds like the sense of family is really important to them and they celebrate it in a big way. I think it is hard for people from small families when they see a big family at work.

You need to remember that one isn’t more right than the other- it is just that one is different from the other. So try not to compare one families reaction to another.

As for them expressign their concern- well they are your parents so I guess they feel entitled to express their concerns/get it off their chest so to speak. That doesn’t mean that they don’t love or that you should take it for more than them expressing their opinion. They are obviously supportive of your relationship but clearly aren;t into marriage. Just than them for their opinion but mention that you feel different and that marriage is important to you and why. Hopefully they will accept that.

Post # 3
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Newbee

I am going through the same thing!  My dad loves me, but he is not excited for my wedding at all.  He just says, “I’ll be there.”  He is also not giving any money for the wedding becuase he things weddings are not genuine.   Here is what helps me get through this:  My fiance’s family is excited and they are just as important.  If your fiance’s family looks foward to a wedding then great!  It will be a wonderful way for you to start a new tradition with your new little family.  Hope everything works out, send an update so we know how you are doing!

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