When leaving an event…

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: when leave an event do you....
    find the host and say goodbye : (122 votes)
    86 %
    quietly leave and follow-up later : (15 votes)
    11 %
    other (please explain!) : (5 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA

    i find the host and tell them i had an amazing time and thank you. I find it more appropriate than them thinking you didnt have a good time and just ditched out. lol

    Post # 4
    4441 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @Mrs.Mittens:  ALWAYS find the host and say goodbye.

    I thought it was super odd that there were people that left our wedding without saying goodbye.  For those that just slipped out I assumed they were having a terrible time and couldn’t be bothered to say goodbye.

    Post # 5
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I usually find the host.  There might be occasions where I don’t, but that would be rare.  I think I’ve left immediately because of having an allergic reaction before, and if the host appears to busy I might instead might pass the word on through a spouse, parents, etc.

    Post # 6
    15016 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We’ve done both,  it depends on the situation. There are parties where you want or need to make a quiet/quick exit and then are times where it’s more important to thank the host.

    Post # 8
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Interesting, I always thought it was kind of rude to just leave and not say thank you.

    Post # 9
    1018 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Mrs.Mittens:  I’ve only ever left once without saying good bye to the host or guest of honor and it was because I didn’t want to hear the “Awe why? don’t leave! No, stay! You can’t go!” and deal with that and try to give “excuses” that are *good enough* to leave. That can be annoying. But if it’s someone I was really close to I would’ve sucked it up lol

    Post # 10
    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I always find the host, tell them I’m heading out, thanks for having me etc.

    Post # 11
    9949 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I try to find the host and say goodbye.  If he/she can’t be found, I just leave.  

    At events where there is no host, I usually say goodbye to the people I talked with the most.  

    Post # 12
    324 posts
    Helper bee

    @Mrs.Mittens:  I always find the host, thank them, and tell them that I’m leaving. I think it’s rude not to. I always want to thank people for their time and generosity, rather than just ditching them! I don’t make a huge scene when I leave, a quick/quiet aside with the host seems appropriate.

    Post # 13
    941 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I had to choose Other. I normally find the Host and say thank you/good-bye. However, I would never interrupt the host in order to accomplish this. At a wedding, the B&G may be really busy at the time I want to leave – dancing, taking pictures, talking to family or other friends. I think it is even more awkward to stand there and wait until they are done or worse, interrupt them, in order to tell them good-bye and thank you. In that case, a follow-up text or email or phone call the next day thanking them for inviting me should be sufficient. 

    Post # 14
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @MrsHoneyBear:  I don’t think it’s rude not to if there’s a good reason for not doing so.  I would hope someone didn’t think it was rude when I needed medication ASAP.

    Post # 15
    8850 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I always say bye, and I usually get in trouble with my husband because I feel the need to say goodbye to evvvverybody and start conversations with them all!  Whereas he’s a little ADD and when it’s time to go, he wants to say bye and get out of there.

    Post # 16
    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @Mrs.Mittens:  Lol you read Cup of Jo too? I was wondering if someone would make a post on this!

    I don’t go to too many parties. I’ve ducked out before, but I don’t normally do that.

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