Post # 1
When one of you is sick w/ something contagious…do you and your spouse:
A) Protect each other from each other’s germs e.g. sleep in separate beds/places, refrain from sharing straws, stop kissing for that time etc while taking care of the sick person
B) Take care of the sick spouse without changing what you normally do, because you’re going to get it anyway? (e.g. you don’t stop kissing/getting close, share straws/glasses, sleep together in the same bed etc)
I feel bad because whenever I’m sick, my SO is still super cuddly and kissy and says “he doesn’t care if he gets sick”, while I tend to want to avoid his germs by taking care of him still but without the kissing and sharing drinks etc. It’s cuz I really haaaate getting sick, as when I do I get it really bad. I think he feels a bit rejected though when I avoid kissing him when he’s sick.
What do you guys do?
Post # 3
If he’s stomach sick then I take care of him from a distance… I really can’t handle puking so I’ll get him what he needs but I’m always so scared of catching it that I keep away. We sleep in the same bed though.
If he has a cold, sore throat, or something like that I will take care of him and cuddle him.
Post # 5
We try to do A as much as we remember to. Especially if it’s Darling Husband who is sick because I have chronic medical problems that just make everything worse. We don’t usually sleep separately though.
Post # 6
@orchidaloha: aw you are really sweet. I should probably learn to get over myself and just ride it out if i do get sick!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
We do something in between. We always sleep together, but we’ll keep more of a distance and try to remember not to kiss / share food / etc.
Post # 8
A bit of both… He would take care of me and vice versa. We won’t kiss or share cups and such, but we still sleep in the same bed.
Post # 9
@AB Bride: yeah… maybe sleeping separately is a bit too much. SO and I haven’t lived together yet so we still gotta figure out what we’re gonna do, but we’re probably going to still stay in the same bed unless i am sneezing 24/7 and will keep him up all night…hm.
Post # 10
I am B I will take care of him and ignore that he’s sick and I know if I get it then he will do the same for me.
Post # 11
Uhhh…we just take care of each other and carry on as usual. I mean, it’s kind of ingrained in us to kiss each other, so NOT kissing, is hard….and I operate under the assumption that I’m going to catch it anyway, so ….who cares?
Post # 12
@MrsSmith13: that’s a good way to look at it…. haha i feel bad because I am more A and he is more B!!!
Post # 13
We try to follow method A but after a day or so we regress back into our usual routines. So far, we haven’t passed anything too serious to one another…yet. lol
Post # 14
We do B. But, that’s how I caught the flu from him last month, lol.
Post # 15
We both take care of each other regardless (B).
If it’s something contagious, and it’s in the air, it will get to the other eventually so I’d rather give/receive love and care than feel like I’m being quarantined.
Post # 16
@Nona99: Same here. We still sleep in the same bed and kiss. I take care of him and don’t really worry about if I’m infecting myself. We probably wouldn’t share drinks but we really don’t typically share drinks when we aren’t sick either.