When other ppl get pregnant before you

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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4147 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Join the club 🙁  We’ve been TTC for almost 3 years.  Last August, I MC’ed at 7 weeks, and I’ve seen multiple couples (some who don’t even want kids) get pregnant and have their babies.  I’m so happy for them, but mad at my body for not being able to provide us with a baby of our own.  It’s hard, but a couple of my friends have told me I’ve been handling it so gracefully, which I appreciate.  Deep down I want to scream and cry everytime I hear someone is pregnant though.  When will it be my turn?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think it’s natural to feel sad and frsutrated.  Hang in there.  Hope it happens for you soon!

Post # 6
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3876 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Mrgrz07:  I’m not quite as far in my TTC journey – I’m only at about 9 months so far – but I can relate to what you’re saying. I feel like every time I find out about another potential obstacle to conception, I hear about another friend and/or coworker who is expecting. 

I completely understand that mix of happiness (because you really are happy for them) and disappointment. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I definitely understand this.  I’ve had two losses and while I was experiencing the second one,  people with estimated due dates around my first due date started announcing their pregnancies.  So, that was about as painful as it gets, to know that not only did I lose my January baby but that when I was losing my April baby, all the  January mommas were making excited announcements with pictures of healthy wombs and tiny bumps.  I consider shutting down facebook on an every 3 day basis so I can avoid it. Literally 75% of posts are women my age with their kids or their baby bumps.  And here’s me, not even allowed to try this month. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Mrgrz07:  I totally understand.  I wish nothing more for it to happen for you too.  Have you tried anything to help you conceive?  Acupuncture, herbs, western medicine?  Has your DH been tested?  I had an HSG last year to see if there was any blockage (all clear apparently!) 2 months before I conceived, and I’ve heard sometimes it “unplugs” you and helps people conceive.  Although for me, it was very uncomfortable, and the gyno I’m sure wouldn’t allow people to continue having them anyway.  I was giving myself until the end of the year, and then I would look into other options, such as IVF.  Adoption is also an option for DH and I, as we have always wanted to adopt, even before knowing about my TTC issues.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Mrgrz07:  LOL well now I feel really really old and behind.  I’m mid-thirties.  

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Mrgrz07:  Sorry you’re dealing with this.

When I was 27 I had my son- who is now six.  Since then, I have been diagnosed with PCOS and was told I may have trouble conceiving, but when the time came that we were ready, the DR would help us.

We weren’t officially trying, but stopped using condoms since the morning after our wedding last November.  He would always pull out, but we weren’t using condoms.  Suprisingly- and very seriously SURPRISINGLY, we found out I got pregnant in April.  We were shocked for a couple reasons– first, because we were told we *may* need help, and secondly, because we had a few weeks were I was dealing with something else, and we only did the deed ONCE– which was when we concieved.

The reason I am telling you this– is because for many couple (not using us as my only example)– the moment you stop “trying”, and just go about your business, it’s like some miracle kicks in and they get pregnant.  

 

Another thing to consider– yeast.  And I don’t mean a typical vaginal yeast infection.  It’s not acknowledged by western medecine, but many of us have a yeast over-growth in our bodies.  Candida– 

 

I had just starting doing a cleanse a few weeks before I got pregnant– so I’m not sure that *truly* contributed.  And I wasn’t doing the cleanse for pregnancy reasons- I just wanted to do it.

 

Google it.  If nothing else, it’s interesting!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

Mrgrz07:  I am sorry you are going through this. I can’t relate entirely but I felt very similar feelings when my sister got engaged before me. When we really want something it is natural to feel jealous when others get it before us. That isn’t to say they didn’t want it just as badly. We need to always be tolerant of others situations. I am sorry you’re going through this. Sending well wishes your way.

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