When people ask why they aren't invited to your wedding……Um…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Nope. If anything I’m feeling bad because I keep thinking “maybe I should invite So and So.” I’m trying to keep our guest list to 25 people.

Maybe it’s an age/interests thing. My friends are all in their 30s and 40s. I can honestly say I do not know a single person who would ever say the words “I want to get shit faced” and even remotely mean it. But my friends are all ubernerds and geeks and our idea of a good time usually involves a video game controller or a book.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Soon-to-be Mrs. Baranick:  Helllllo where is the manners?! I would be pissed lol. Like if you can’t figure out that I didn’t invite you for a reason, why even put yourself in such an awkward situation?! Especially if it’s someone you are hardly friends with! So weird. I think you handled it well! 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Yeah, I think it happens to pretty much everyone! One friend tried to invite himself, but he didn’t even know the date (no mutual friends or anything). He asked the date then decided he wasn’t able to fly in then. I was like, great, problem solved! He actually would have been a fun guest, but it just threw me off when he invited himself.

Just handle it and move on like you did.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Wow.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Soon-to-be Mrs. Baranick:  No one in my family drinks either, and my friends are totally cool with us just having a dinner (no dancing) after the ceremony. Much cheaper that way and no hangovers! lol

Some people are just missing a few nuts and bolts.

Post # 11
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294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Wow she is forward isn’t she.    I don’t know what to say but it’s good you got rid of the message. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Soon-to-be Mrs. Baranick:  Best way to get rid of her be like “oh were having a dry wedding, no alcohol, sorry” Then she can go off and find some other rando on Facebook to mooch booze off of HA! 

Post # 14
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568 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Soon-to-be Mrs. Baranick:  I can only imagine why she got fired! Every time I think I’ve regained faith in humanity Facebook happens! Lol. I’m waiting for the day I get weird comments from people about the wedding, hasn’t happened yet but I know its bound too. I had some chick hit me up for money, she said It looked like I was doing well with my new job and asked if I could give her $60 to go to her obgyn for her pregnancy check up! She was basically saying she thought I looked like j had money, and I should just give it out (at least that’s how I took it) I bet your girl and my girl would make good friends! 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

I wouldn’t take them seriously. I’d think they’re joking, lol.

I had some people inviting themselves BEFORE I was getting engaged. Then one guy friend invited himself after he saw my ring — sadly, I couldn’t invite him as FI doesn’t like him at all; long story short, he dined and dashed and made my FI (SO at the time) pay. So, I moved the date one weekend up. I felt bad, but what can I do!

But you know what? It’s kinda flattering, in a way, that your work acquantaince would want to come to your wedding.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@Soon-to-be Mrs. Baranick:  That is so tacky in every way. You definitely made the right decision not inviting her! The fact that she actually said she wants to get ‘s*** faced’ at your wedding? I have no words.. just a HUGE eyeroll.

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