- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
My fiance and I are friends with an “untraditional” couple. By untraditional, I mean that they’ve been dating for 10 years, living together for 8, and bought a house about 6 years ago. They are big poker sharks, drive sports cars, have motorcycles, lots of tattoos and piercings and don’t fit into any mold. They are great, fun, generous people and we’ve gotten to be close friends with them over the last 5 years. But they recently started hating on our wedding and it’s pissing me off!!
When I got engaged, they were all excited and happy for us. But they started making snarky comments about “why do you need a piece of paper to make things official?” Whatever, I let it go.
Then THEY got officially engaged a few months later and started planning a “traditional” wedding — 150+ people, in a church, banquet hall reception, the whole 9 yards. I was shocked. I was SURE they’d elope or get married in an art gallery or something. (before this, they’d never set foot in a church in their lives).
So then all of a sudden, after planning for months, they decide to scrap the traditional wedding and go to Vegas.
Great, fun, whatever. It suits them way better anyway.
But now they are pressuring the shit out of us for us to fly to Vegas with them! I mean it’s great to be invited but we can’t afford to fly to and stay in Vegas 5 months before our own wedding! And probably right when we’ll be moving into a new house!
And every time we get together, they grill us about how our wedding plans are going and then bash traditional weddings and how expensive they are, even though we are being VERY frugal with ours.
Like …. WTF?!?! What am I supposed to say? Their comments are getting borderline offensive — like implying that we’re wasting our time and money and our marriage won’t last because we didn’t live together first.
Everybody has different ways of doing things. Why do people have to judge and bash when weddings are being planned???