Post # 1
It drives me crazy! Just because the friends of yours who dated for 5 years are going to get engaged right after the friends who have dated for 6.
Im a cashier, and in school part time, and Ill get a customer every so often who knows my SO and I have been together for a while(3 years as of April) and they will ask “When are you getting married?? ITs been long enough!”
First off, I wont be finished school until sometime next year, then I need to take a test for my certification; I am going for Pharmacy Technician. I am so broke right now, because I have only been living on my own, well our own, for a year. So Im getting used to new bills and paying for school out of pocket with NO financial aid(I have been doing this since I started at 19 though) I do not want to plan a wedding until my certification is complete, and have a better job. This job is shit sometimes!
Second, I am 23, Im still a spring chicken, I have time to get married/have kids.
Third, my SO has been married before, so his wanting to get married was not happening last year or the year before. We moved in together last year, and got a pup a few months ago. Getting him to propose(if he even does that ) will def take some time
Do you guys hear this from relatives/friends/ co workers and it just makes you want to smack them? It gets old fast, and I feel like we are under pressure sometimes. Like if we arent getting married or having kids, were doing something wrong! Damn old people, LOL
Post # 3
I think when people see a couple they think are great together… they want the best for them. Take it as a compliment. I mean they could be ripping the two of you apart all the time for sport. You guys as a couple make people smile.
Perhaps you should ask for donations to the “hurry up and get married fund” lol
Post # 4
@HisIrishPrincess: Where should I put this fund bucket? Lol
Part of my point was the longevity issue. One couple gets engaged after 6 months, the other 6 years. Who can tell when people are ready?
Not trying to sound like a total bitch, but then same phrase gets old after a while, you know? Especially when its from someone you dont know that well.
Post # 5
I’ve got my fair share of the “When?” question. It came from same person (parents’ good friend), so I felt irritated for a while. But after some time, I learned to smile, said “not in near future”, and shrug it off.
Well, look at the bright side, I learn not to be that person, LOL
Post # 6
Hmmm… to be completely honest, I think a lot of people ask the ‘when’ question to put the ‘idea’ in couples heads who may need a little icebreaking to talk about the subject, etc. They are not meaning to make you feel pressured… actually, I kind of liked it when people would ask the ‘when’ question – made my now fiance kinda wonder too 😉
Post # 7
I actually like it when people say “you’re next.” It makes me feel like they can see that this is where our relationship is headed too. =)
Post # 8
I always respond- “I know, right? Here’s his number- why don’t you ask him?” Lol- some people, like my family, our friends, etc then do go bug him.
Niether of us feel pressured, and we know the reasons why it hasn’t happened yet ($$$$) so it’s mostly just fun for us. We’ve been together 6 years now, so we’ve seen people get together, marry, and divorce in the time we’ve spent enjoying each other’s company.
I just joke with them about how long it’s been. Makes me laugh 🙂
Post # 9
@Liss13: I agree with a previous response, take it as a compliment! I know it’s totally annoying, but it means they think you are a super cute couple and they want to see you together forever.
If you want to be semi-rude (because, hey, you are responding to a rude question!) you can say “Let me know when you’re ready to pay for it and we’re in!” I’ve said that a couple times about getting pregnant (married 5 years now), though I haven’t said it in a while.