Post # 1
We have had some ppl ask us whether we prefer gifts from our registry or cash (including ppl who were invited, but can’t make it to our wedding). My FI especially could use some help on how to respond to this type of question because we don’t want to come off poorly. He prefers cash over registry generally (but also loves some registry items- most of which we’ve already received). We aren’t doing a honeymoon registry because some of our guests find that tacky and we don’t want to offend them, also our honeymoon will be about 6 mos after our wedding, so it isn’t planned enough for us to list specific items that anybody could “fund”- we don’t yet know what we’ll be doing.
I thought of something like- you don’t have to get us anything at all. we’d be happy and appreciative of anything – we love the registry items and we’re also saving up for the honeymoon.
do you have other suggestions? we won’t be buying a place anytime soon, so I don’t know what my FI should say if ppl ask him directly whether we prefer registry presents or cash when he does prefer cash slightly. should he list any specific registry items he especially wants that we haven’t received yet?
Post # 2
Shkragoldfish: Just say what you have planned to say but I dont think you have to say, “You dont have to get us anything at all…” They are asking bc they are planning on giving you something.
So just a “Thanks for asking, either is fine!”
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
Shkragoldfish: We haven’t made a registry for that specific reason. We dont need/want ‘things’.
Our answer is simple, ‘We aren’t registered anywhere but we are saving toward the addition we are going to put on the house’.
If someone gives us a cheque/cash. Great! If they go boxed gift…awesome. If they don’t give a gift…cool! I don’t really care 🙂
Post # 4
I would just be honest — if people say what do you want I think that its rude to be all coy and “oh no please no gifts just donate the money!”
tell them what you told us “you are so appreciative of any gift but since you are trying to save up for your honeymoon anything towards that would definitely be a big help”
Post # 5
littlemisshostess: Agreed! I think they’re asking because they genuinely want to know which you’d prefer. I wouldn’t think they would then turn around and be offended that you chose one of the options they presented. This wording is great!
Post # 6
LDay1983: we aren’t against registry gifts. there are a few he wants and quite a few I like also, so we did register because there are things we want and need.
littlemisshostess: yes, it would be odd to say no gifts please and just donate the money- we definitely aren’t saying anything like that. we’re being honest- he isn’t anti-registry gifts (and I definitely want some). I’ll pass on your suggested wording
Post # 7
I usually said that we were registered at ____ store, and are looking forward to saving for a house since we didn’t have much storage. People understood for the most part that we preferred cash, but there will always be some people who prefer to give physical gifts, so I was glad to be able to offer both.