When pregnancy conflicts with wedding plans? What would you do?

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
7030 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

TwinkleBoss:  You don’t postpone major life events for someone else. You shouldn’t postpone your wedding, and your cousin shouldn’t delay TTC.

The last wedding I was at, the bride’s SIL was pregnant and couldn’t attend. So they skyped in the morning. There’s almost always someone who can’t attend. So forget about trying to fit into someone else’s schedule (especially something as hard to predict as baby’s due date): plan the wedding, and I’m sure your cousin will attend if at all possible.

Post # 3
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

TwinkleBoss:  Don’t put your life on hold. It sounds like your cousin has a timeline in mind for a baby, but things don’t always go according to the timelines we set. The TTC threads are proof of that. She could be very pregnant regardless of when you get married.

Post # 4
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You can’t schedule your wedding around other people’s currently non-existent pregnancies.

What if one of your family members decides to go to school or work overseas? Are you going to postpone until they get back?

Live your lives on your schedule.

Post # 5
3432 posts
Sugar bee

TwinkleBoss:  Nope.  In fact, we just hada friend who got married (her MOH had just given a month before the wedding) and the other MOH, bridesmaid was about to pop.  She didn’t mind at all.  But the dresses allowed for expansion.

Post # 7
2315 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

So which January is it you are hoping to marry? 2015 or 2016? If its the first then you don’t need to worry as your cousin would already have to be pregnant by now in order to have a baby by then. If its the latter then yes, there is a chance you might be…but then again so might a lot of other people. You definitely shouldn’t stop your wedding just because she might be pregnant/just had a baby then.

Post # 8
1086 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Go ahead with your original plans for your wedding.

Post # 9
68 posts
Worker bee

Big life events are always going to happen. Don’t postpone it. More likely than not, your cousin will be able to come anyway. 

Post # 10
1154 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Absolutely not!  Is she planning to wait to TTC until after your wedding? Probably not, so why would you delay your wedding because she’s TTC? There’s never a convenient time for everyone, get married when you want!  We were forced to delay ours becuase of my little sister’s high school graduation (2 months after when we wanted to get married) and I really wish we didn’t.  

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