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    xmofreshx    July 9, 2011   nyc

    We are getting married July 9.  We are planning on inviting the majority of people at once (about 170 ppl) and then having a "B list" of invitees we are going to send invitations to once we get the "no" replies back from the first round of invitees. It's about 10 couples, if we have the seats.

    When should we send the original invitations?  and can we set a short RSVP amount of time?  like, two weeks after we mail them?  We sent dave the dates, so to be honest, i figure most people already know whether or not they are going to make it, even without the official invitation.  so they dont need a lot of rsvp time.

    Then once we get back the NO RSVPs we can send the second groups' invitations and set the RSVP to two weeks after that. 

    So if we do that, and need about 3 weeks between final RSVP date and weding date, we would have to send the first round of invites out around the second week of May... right?

    Advice?

     
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    mwitter80    December 11, 2010   Connecticut

    I sent mine out at 10weeks. I set a one month date. So that gave us another 6 weeks. However you will need new RSVP cards for group B since the date will expire too fast to get them back

     
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    MrsMcGyro    July 9, 2011   New York

    I can't offer much advice because we're having the same issue..and we're getting married the same date, have 170 guest, and a B list. Lol. We're everything twins!

     
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    RingPup    July 9, 2011  

    Mine are out already, mostly because 70% of guests are OOT and I have a B list as well. 180 guests to start (okay...183 to be exact!).

    Why not give yourself more of a buffer to mid/late April?

    I know mine are out super early, but we didn't do STD's and figured we might as well get them done and out!

     
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    missmouse29    July 2011   NWOntario, Canada

    I'm probaly waiting until late April-ish. 

    If you have a B-list you're going to need more time for A-list rsvps & to send out the second set of invites as well as have ample time for b-list rsvps, so keep that in mind.

     
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    xmofreshx    July 9, 2011   nyc

    THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR REPLIES AND ADVICE!!!  I need more help!

    Another question: How much time do I give between when the guests receive the invite in the mail, and when they have to RSVP? I am thinking three weeks is enough time for them to figure out if they can go or not, and to drop the invitation in the mail.  Plus, we sent STDs so most people probably already know if they can make it or not, before we even send the invitations.

    For ex: I am gonna send the invites to the A list May 9 (theyll prob receive them by May 13) then I would set the RSVP for them as June 3.  Is 3 weeks between then they receive the invitation and when I ask them to send it back, enough time?  I am asking for it 4 weeks before the wedding date, so it wont seem to far ahead to send invites.  Then the B list invitations could hopefully be sent out as soon as the NO A-list RSVPs come back, hopefully the people who know they cant make it will be the first to reply, as I can sent B list around May 30, and set their RSVP date for June 17, giving them 3 weeks to reply, and getting back their RSVPs three weeks before the wedding. 

     
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    ninjadarling    February 9, 2008  

    I'm pretty sure I'm going to send mine out the first week of May, as they'll take probably close to a week to get across the county, then My RSVP date is going to be June 9th. Exactly a month before the wedding, so I have time to contact any delinquent RSVPers hehe.  :)

     
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    RingPup    July 9, 2011  

    @xmofreshx:

    Your timeline seems a little tight....what about a week earlier for a little more of a buffer? I am captain early invite so don't take what I say too seriously, but if I was a B list invite I would definitely have plans for that weekend with that type of timeline.

     
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    MapleBecky    July 9, 2011   Canada

    We're sending ours out mid-May.  I'm not sure how long we should give them either.

     
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    Lisamr    July 31, 2011   Live in Florida Wedding in Long Island, NY where I am from.

    I just ordered the invitations this week and plan to send them out in April.

     
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    M.Ruder    July 2, 2011   Saint Louis

    We're sending ours out within the first two weeks of April.  Our RSVP date is June 5 for a July 2 wedding.

     
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    Ms Hedgehog    July 10, 2011   Dallas/ Ft Worth TX

    Our Wedding is July 10th (Yay weekend twin! lol) and I was thinking of sending them out in March... now I am thinking that is too early.

     

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