Post # 1
So, I’m recently engaged and my fiance and I are not planning to get married until summer of 2012. Part of the reason we’re waiting is that we’re moving across the country so I can go to grad school and I would like to be done prior to the wedding. Anyway – I have two best friends from grade school/high school who both live in different states from me now and I plan to ask them to be my maid and matron of honor (yes I know most people only have one – but since we will likely have two best men I figured this would work well). I love these ladies dearly and our friendships are long standing both in years and distance apart. My question is the rest of the bridal party. The other girls I want to ask have been close friends and growing closer over the past few years. They are the people I spend time with regularly but they have not been friends of mine for more than a couple of years. I would love to have them in the wedding, but I fear how my friendship will change with them once I move. Although at the same time, I feel as though if I ask them before I move they will truely understand how much I value their friendship and we will all make more of an effort to stay close.
So what do I do? Ask them in the next month or two (before moving)? Wait until I’m moved and see if I stay in contact with them (I know I will – it’s more a matter of to what extent)? Or just decide not to ask them and see where my friendships stand in the next year after I’ve been living in a new city and making new friends?
Post # 3
If you know that you are surely going to ask your two best friends then I would ask them right away. Before you move. I would wait though, on asking the rest of your BM’s. Though no would, would ever like to think that things change over time.. things do. So with having a big move coming up, as you do I would wait. If you have someone that you are a little closer with then the rest of the girls and fear that you may not stay in touch and by asking her it will help your friendship..then do it. I am experiencing the same thing right now. Three of my BM’s now live in other states, and though one of the girls, whom I went to High School with, I’m not as close with today as then, I still asked. It’s awkward at times, because we don’t talk that often, but when she comes home we are inseperable. If you fear for your friendships then just remember to try extra hard to make the effort, for things to work. It will all be okay in the end, and who knows maybe you will make another friend once you move. You can never have too many:) Best of Luck!
Post # 4
I say ask the two girls, but as for the others- wait until your closer to planning.
Post # 5
Just to clairify – I plan to ask the other two very soon, I have no intention of waiting. It’s only the others I’m concerned about.
Post # 6
I would wait before asking the others. You never know who you’ll become close to in the next two years and who you’ll lose touch with (excluding your best friends 🙂 ).
Post # 7
It may be best to wait a bit so you don’t end up in a sticky situation a year or so from now…