- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
So my BF has the ring. Well he may not have it in his possession, but our custom ring was completed a month ago. I asked my BF to either make arrangements to leave it at the jeweler’s until he was ready to propose or keep it somewhere not in our house (it would drive me NUTS if it was in the house!). Buying the ring all came about at the end of February when I asked bf where things are going. There was talk of getting engaged after living together for a year (it will be 2 years this August) or dating for 2 years (it was 2.5 years yesterday).
I made the mistake though of not asking for a timeline as to when I would get the ring. I know a month isn’t long, but it’s still bothering me that I didn’t ask.
We have talked about when we would want to get married, and both agreed that next fall/winter would be best (like fall/winter 2013). I work full time and am in school part time so I really wouldn’t have much time to plan anything for this fall/winter, and I don’t want to get married in the summer. Next spring is only a year away, and with my schedule I don’t know if even that would be possible, especially since I will hopefully be having surgery this summer that will put me out of commission for about a month.
Also, after planning 3 weddings (for my sister and 2 of my friends) I know that the venues I would like and that would accommodate my large family book up way early (at least 1 year in advance, if not longer! Depending on the exact venue and season, obviously fall/winter would be closer to the 1 year booking), so ideally we should start planning more than a year out. So like soon.
I’m not really sure he even realises how long it could take to plan a wedding… Should I bring this up with him?
I’ve tried hinting here and there, mentioning things like “Wow, I can’t believe J (friend of ours who is getting married in December) hasn’t started looking for a dress yet! Hopefully she knows that it can take several months for a dress to be made, and that they recomend shopping for a dress like a year out!” Or yesterday I mentioned that a co-worker of mine who was planning on getting married next June just found out the venue she wants is booked solid on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays for June 2012, 2013 and 2014, and they had to change their wedding date to September to get their venue.
When I mentioned those things he didn’t really seem to believe that venues could book so far in advance or that you’d need to start looking at dresses a year out. He seems to be under the impression that you can go in a month before your wedding and just order a dress, and pick out a venue just a few months ahead of time.
Other than the purchase of a ring, there have been absolutely no signs that an engagement is happening any time soon. We don’t have any special occasions coming up, no trips, no nothing. And he’s totally not the type to do a big surprise (like tell me one day “Hey, we’re going to X for a trip), nor do I think he would plan something small on a random Tuesday. I know it would be something grand and romantic. Really the only major plan we have over the next little while is a trip to Toronto. At the end of November. And I really don’t want to wait that long, because that would mean really pushing a potential date back.
Is there really a way to revisit this and get a timeline on when the proposal might occur? Or should I just wait it out and start thinking that we may be looking at a spring 2014 wedding?