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    heather5743    March 10, 2012  

    Our invitations are finished, and I wish I could send them today, but I know I shouldn't.

    I'm planning to send our STDs next month.  Our wedding is a destination wedding, I guess.  It's about 10 hours from where we live, and all our guests will have to travel.

    I'm way ahead of the game, I know.  But I want to have a date set in my head, so when would you send invitations out?

    Wedding Date:  March 10, 2012

    RSVP Date:  February 1st, 2012

    Mail Invitations:  ???

     

     
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    rachel_leigh    May 15, 2010  

    Usually the rule is at least six to eight weeks ahead, more if it is a DW but less if you have sent STDs. So I would say send them right at the beginning of the year, in the very first part of January. That way you avoid your invites getting lost in holiday mail.

     
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    MapleBecky    July 9, 2011   Canada

    No sooner than 3 months.   I would mail them just after next Christmas.   STDs in the fall.

     
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    heather5743    March 10, 2012  

    @rachel_leigh:  I was thinking right after the first of the year, like January 3rd, but then I wasn't sure if 5 weeks was enough RSVP time.  I guess it is though.  Thanks!

     
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    heather5743    March 10, 2012  

    @MapleBecky:  Thanks!  That's what I was thinking too.  I think January 3rd will be the day.  I'm weird and have to have the exact day written down. LOL!

     
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    sdrury89    March 10, 2012   Houston, TX

    @heather5743: Hi date twin! :) Originally I was going to send them out the first of the year, but my caterer said that if I did that there was a good chance they'd go in the pile of Christmas mail anyway. I'm sending them out way early and they're going out right before Thanksgiving. That way people will open them right away thinking it's the first of the Christmas cards.

    I also just send out STDs this week because our wedding is a semi-destination wedding, most people have to drive 3+ hours or fly from a state or two away.

     
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    thewheelsonthebus    June 25, 2011  

    If you need a date in your mind - use January 2nd :) It will be the first monday after the holidays and you can send them off giving people plenty of time to respond.

    You may want to make your RSVP date a little earlier if you need to DIY or order things that are person count specific.

    Good luck! I sort of wish we had that kind of time.. we've only got a 4 month engagement to work with!

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    I would mail them late December/Early January.

    I sent ours in May because we didn't do STD's and it was a holiday weekend. We still had some issues with people not RSVPing.

     
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    heather5743    March 10, 2012  

    @thewheelsonthebus:  haha Thanks!  I want to be able to write down the date!  I was thinking January 3rd, so it wouldn't look like I waited until the day after the new year, but no one's going to notice any of that. lol!

    Yeah, we've had a 21 month long engagement, so that's why I'm so far ahead!  I kind of wish we had a 4 month engagement though.  It seems like it's never going to get here!  Good luck with the rest of your planning!!!

     

    @His Barista:  Thank you. I was thinking right after Christmas would be best, so all the holiday mail would be gone.

    @sdrury89:  Date twin!  YAY!  and poo, now I might need to rethink January.  hmmm...I do like earlier, but I don't want people to forget to RSVP, and I think I'll go crazy if I have to wait 2-3 months to find out who's coming and who's not.  LOL

     
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    peanuthead    October 1, 2011  

    I have a question for you...when you say you've completed them, do you mean they are ready to mail? I ask because I am afraid of doing mine now and my wedding is in Oct 2011!!!

    I'm afraid of address changes, postage going up, family dying, etc

     

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