When should I propose to her?

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would reccommend not doing it at the party, only because I have seen several posts on the Bee in the past about people getting offended that people are getting engaged at their parties/weddings/birthdays/events.

However, if you propose the week before the party, I think that would be fine. As long as its not the day of or the day before.

Post # 3
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Maybe ask her parents what they think…I would assume you are going to ask permission first. If they are all for it then I say do it. If they seem a little unsure then just say you wanted their advise on when would be a good time…getting their opinion would matter.

Post # 5
6785 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

I would do it before the party so you can announce you engagement to everyone there! 

Post # 6
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014


FutureDrAtkins:  agreed, it would be great for everybody to celebrate together.

timscape:  In regards to asking for permission, I personally don’t think it’s required at any age if you’re an adult, pretty sure my dad would have laughed at my FI if he had asked for permission. Good luck and congrats!

Post # 8
314 posts
Helper bee

I think it would be nice if you waited until you leave the party and then tell her how beautiful her parents’ marriage is after 50 years and how you want to grow old with her 🙂 then propose

Post # 9
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

timscape:  do it the week before!!

Post # 11
7179 posts
Busy Beekeeper

timscape:  I don’t think it will steal thunder at all (unless there is animosity between you and her parents).  

Post # 12
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Week before. Have your moment with her. Let her parents have their moment.

Post # 13
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think the week before would be fine. And I think she will enjoy getting to gush about it at the party. I don’t think it will steal any thunder from them.

Post # 15
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would mention it to the parents, not for permission, just to see if it would offend them in any way. If you would make them upset, I am guessing your gf would want you to wait a week. No point in creating unnecessary conflict. Besides, chances are they will be excited!

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