When should I send invitations/ have the RSVP date? (Yes, another one!)

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: When should I send invitations? When should I request RSVPs? (Destination wedding)
    Invite 6-8 months in advance : (2 votes)
    5 %
    Invite 4-6 months in advance : (6 votes)
    15 %
    Invite 2-4 months in advance : (13 votes)
    33 %
    RSVP deadline 4 months in advance : (0 votes)
    RSVP deadline 3 months in advance : (2 votes)
    5 %
    RSVP deadline 1-2 months in advance (If you chose this- why?) : (16 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
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    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I still say follow traditional etiquette and send out formal invitations no more than 2 months in advance and rsvp 4 weeks. I feel like the whole point of STD are to let out of town guests who need to travel (which is everyone in your case) know about your plans.

    Post # 4
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    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @gingerkitten:  For Italy, I would do early. I’m doing a half-destination (3 hours from where I live, 30 minutes from my FI’s family, and 10 hours from my family) and I’m debating sending invites out 3 months early.  I would send them at the 6 month period and make sure you include a wbesite URL or something so people can get more info on how to plan that trip. It sounds expensive, though, so I would assume a lot of declines, so be prepared!

    Post # 5
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    3718 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We had a DW in Scotland where 85-90% of the guest list flew from the USA. No one waited for the official invite to make travel arrangements. The STD was enough. We sent out invitees the last week of April, RSVP date was June 1 and the wedding is August 12. So I guess invites we’re about 3 months before wedding and RSVP was just over 2 months out. 

     

    Post # 6
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    697 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    You sent out a STD; that is your guests’ clue that they need to buy airfare. If you send out invitations super early, you’re likely to have more trouble getting RSVP cards back, and what was the point of the STD then? I’d also leave the RSVP deadline 1 month out, and just add a section on your website for ideas of where people can look for additional accomodations if the first choice is booked up. I would imagine most people who feel comfortable leaving the country for a wedding are at least moderately comfortable making their own travel arrangements.

    Post # 7
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    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    Since you’re having a destination wedding, I think sending things out a little earlier than normal wouldn’t hurt.

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