- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
I know this question gets asked way too frequently, but I feel that, for our wedding, sending invitiations 6-8 weeks in advance and getting RSVPs 3-4 weeks in advance does not apply.
We are having a destinaion wedding in Italy. Everyone is flying from the US, so it is quite the journey. I’m not sure when we need to give the chef our final headcount, but I would like to know 2-3 months in advance if someone is coming, because the wedding is in a fairly rural area, and most of my family (and his) hasn’t left the continent before, so everyone (that I have heard so far) is planning on staying at the same hotel nex door to the villa. (We are not mandating this, but we think that is how it is going to hash out, because we think everyone will want to stick together). Anyway, I am worried about helping people find alternative accomodaion if the very small hotel gets booked up.
Also, I don’t know about you guys, but I don’t feel comfortable buying a plane ticket for a wedding until I have the invitation in my hand. (Side story: one of my friends was telling me for months about how she wanted to see me at her wedding, that she would be sending invitations soon, etc. And then I never got an invitiation. Good thing I didn’t spend $400 on airfare.) We sent out save-the dates, so everyone knows the time and place (and has seen our detail-filled wedding website), but I just want to send them out around the time that people should be buying airline tickets. My immediate family and his are already booked on flights, and prices are slowly climbing.
So when should I send them? My dad suggested 6-8 MONTHS (and FI agreed), but I feel like that is too early. I feel like the sweet spot would be about 4 months in advance, but that would be Christmas, and I don’t want people to lose their RSVP cards in the holiday shuffle. Waiting until January makes me uncomfortable, because I feel like once we are on that side of New Years, things are going to go crazy fast. Is 5 months in advance okay? That’s Thanksgiving, so sill busy-ish, but less so. I feel like if I wait too long to send them, people are going to start asking about them.
About RSVPs- people are going to know at least a few months in advance whether they’ll be flying to Italy. Right?
Thanks for your help! Sorry it was so long- obviously I have hought about this a lot.