When should I send Save the Dates? Should I send them?

posted 2 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I was an encore bride too.  We didn’t send out STDs.  We told our families the date and that was pretty much it until they received the invitations.  

They do still put them in newspapers. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

emilyjean89:   our wedding was 10.20 – we sent the invites out in the middle of August with an RSVP date of 09.22.  

Post # 5
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585 posts
Busy bee

 

emilyjean89:  I think it depends on the size of your wedding and if you will have out of town guests, honestly. If your wedding will be 30 local guests, you could probably get away with no STDS. if it’s 100+ guests with some out of towners, it would be smart to send them.

From what i’ve seen, the standard timeline for STDs is 6-8 months before the wedding date. For example, my wedding was 11/22. We send them at the beginning of June. We should have sent them in May but time got away from us and we were going through a few things.

Invites go out about 2-3 months in advance. We sent ours at the beginning of September with a RSVP date of November 1. Thats exactly 2 months.

I am a procrastinator and should have pushed everything back a month, so I would advise doing that. I was pretty stressed to get everything out in time.

If it is a destination wedding, add 3-4 months to allow everyone to book travel.

I think we would have had a lot more declines if we hadn’t sent out STDs. We invited 132, and 84 showed up. Majority of the declines were from elderly out of towners or from emergencies that popped up last minute (surprisingly like 15 people…)

 

also, to answer your question about the newspaper-from what I have seen, the only people who do that now are the parents who are like “hey look at my child who got married!!” or the socialites. But I am in a metro. area and it’s rather expensive (like…$500 for a small little ad that runs one day). I wanted to do it just because I my FI and I went to HS together and not many people knew we were getting married besides our personal friends, but I didn’t when I saw the price. You could look in to an online ad?

  • This reply was modified 2 years ago by  texaslemon.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

emilyjean89:  I am also a September bride….I sent my STDs the Friday before Thanksgiving. While we are only inviting 115 people 75% of our guests live out of state. Our wedding also falls on a holiday weekend and there is another wedding in the family 5 weeks before ours. I wanted all the OOT friends and family to have plenty of time to arrange for travel.

I plan to send our invitations July 10th, 8 weeks before our wedding.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

emilyjean89:  Yay! Another September bride! Anyway, we aren’t doing STDs. I think it is an incredible waste of money. Other brides love them, and it is a nice way to send out a photo of the engagement shoot. So it just depends on how you feel about that. But since I am not doing STDs, I am sending out invites in the middle of June. By the time everyone gets them, figures out if they can come or not, and then sends back the RSVPs, it’s going to be late July or even into August. So by the time I contact everyone who didn’t RSVP, it’s going to be mid August. Our date is 9/12/15, and we are going to need counts for food and alcohol. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m getting married on October 10, 2015, and our planner told us we needed to send out STDs by March 10, and our invites by August 10.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

emilyjean89:  I was married September 20, 2014, and sent my STDs in March and invitations the first week in August.

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