When should I tell a future employer…?

posted 3 years ago in Career
  • poll: When?
    Interview : (6 votes)
    13 %
    After being hired : (40 votes)
    87 %
  • Post # 3
    811 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    After accepting and negotiating your offer, you can let them know.  I’ve never had a problem doing that, especially when I say I understand I might not be eligible for paid time off and will be happy to take time off without pay or make up hours later.  Employers are usually able to work with you.

    Post # 4
    1584 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Definitely after hired. I recently went through 2 stages of interviews at a company, and was sure I had the position. THe first interview was the best interview of my life, the woman who interviewed me really put me at ease and even commented on my engagement ring, asked where and when I was getting married. Turns out she got married at the venue I am getting married at.

    Went through round 2, also thought it was a good interview, really thought I had the job. Found out a couple weeks later they had decided on another candidate, and I definitely think that my getting married in the next few months had something to do with it, even though they would never tell me that. I’ve even decided to stop wearing my engagement ring to interviews for now, as I read an article that it really does affect hiring decisions where women candidates are concerned.

    Post # 5
    394 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @mrschmura:  I actually just had this happen.  I am starting a new job next week.  I notified them of my wedding date, and needing time off, during the offer process.  I wouldn’t worry about it when you interview.  I would focus on the interview & why you are perfect for the job and they can’t live without you.  Then, when they’ve realized that and are ready to offer you the job, let them know.   I doubt they will have a problem accomodating it.

    You don’t want to waste their time or start off on a bad note by waiting until after you’re hired.

    Post # 6
    1178 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    as pp have said after you’re hired.

    Post # 7
    2367 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    After you’re hired.  Like it or not, a lot of employers still think “Oh, she’s getting married, baby’s going to be soon and we’re never going to see her”.  Never give them an excuse NOT to hire you.

    Post # 8
    2057 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

    A few days off? That isn’t critical. It is only critical if you would be gone for more than 2 weeks at a time.

    When I had to return to Asia for a family member’s wedding, I notified my prospective boss and HR (within the same company) about being previously approved by then-current manager for a month’s vacation. This was stage 2 of 3 of the interview process. (Stage 3 = acceptance interview)

    Post # 9
    1872 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Don’t wear your ring to your interview.

    Post # 10
    13168 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I say after you have an offer.  Basically, you can make that time off that you need be part of the negotiations.  Once you have been giving an offer, they can’t take it back just because you ask for time off.

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