(Closed) When should I tell my boss I'm pregnant?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: When should I tell my boss I'm pregnant?
    Tell the supervisor tomorrow at the meeting, right after review is completed : (6 votes)
    8 %
    Wait 2 or 3 more weeks and tell the supervisor at a separate occasion : (63 votes)
    83 %
    Neither (please leave a comment to explain) : (7 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would wait until you’re out of the first trimester to tell your boss.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee

    Wait until you’re in the second trimester to tell your supervisor

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @funkymunky85:  it’s a bit of both. If you wait til august you’re giving 6 months notice at a job you’ve been at for 9 months – it just looks better – and your risk of miscarriage drops dramatically. Remember, legally they can’t ask you anything about it. You could wait til 34 weeks if you wanted 🙂

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I would not tell them now– both my boss and my dad (who has had 10 pregnant employees under him) say it should never be a surprise. People should figure it out by your being sick, tired, showing, and the doctors appointments– and possibly showing. When the time comes, I expect my boss to find out when I start to tell non-family. Probably around 15 weeks.

    And his reason of for the delay was it is none of his business. Let him know when you need him to transition your work. My boss would want to know from a “what the heck is up with her” standpoint, but has always said that we are entitled to privacy and would never want people to go through a public miscarriage (we had one in December– it was awful)

    Post # 8
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d wait even longer than 2-3 weeks from now.

    I’d wait until you are a bit further into your second trimester.  By that point, your miscarriage risk will have dropped significantly but you still likely won’t really be showing.  And you’d still be giving your employer plenty of notice.

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee

    DEFINITELY wait until after the probationary period is up! In a perfect world, no employer would ever discriminate against a pregnant employee – but it’s not a perfect world. I know a girl who was fired for being pregnant; they said it didn’t fit the “company image.” Yes, this was in the U.S. in the last couple of years, and obviously it breaks federal law… but they knew she didn’t have the confidence or the money to sue them for wrongful termination, so they did it anyway. After her experience, I’d prefer not to risk it. Hopefully your boss will be nothing but happy for you, but you never know.

    Post # 10
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    Blushing bee

    I’m with the others. I made the mistake of telling my boss the first week of my second trimester… I had a miscarriage and had to tell everyone, which REALLY REALLY sucked.

    Post # 11
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    The pregnancy is totally irrelavant to your performace review… I’d wait.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Just wait and let the baby tell her. 

    Post # 14
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @funkymunky85:  2 weeks is pretty standard notice to outright quit, so i wouldnt worry about giving months notice for mar leave.”you’ll be showing with plenty of time for their notice

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @funkymunky85:  I’m guessing you’re Canadian?

     

    Post # 16
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    @funkymunky85:  I’m a government employee, and, unlike allllll the other bees on here, I told my boss at 5 weeks, lol.  I have been working here for many years and have grown close with my boss (I would be comfortable with telling her if anything bad happened/miscarriage/etc), so it’s a slighty different situation.  I was also, at 5 weeks, quite sick already, so I was taking leave for doc appts….so I kinda had to tell her.

    To each their own.  Do what you feel comfortable with!

    PS – you’re lucky you get maternity leave…we don’t! 🙁

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