Post # 1
So FI and I have been reconsidering our Catholic church wedding. With that being said, we’re thinking about having the ceremony at the same location as the reception.
Off our reception “hall” is a pretty, cobblestone patio. Behind the patio is a grassy area with trees behind that. With a nice pergola or some other structure, it could be a very beautiful place to have a ceremony.
Anyway, our original plan was to have our ceremony at the church at 2pm and then have the reception start at 4pm, with a cocktail hour and the dinner buffet opening at 5pm. The church was about a 20 min drive from the reception hall. BTW, we’re having a casual reception with BBQ.
So if we decide to have our ceremony at the reception location, when should the ceremony start? 3:30? 4:00? I think we have decided on doing a first look, so most of our pictures should be done before the ceremony and we wouldn’t need that lag time in between the ceremony and reception to take pics.
The only other issue is that we have to be out of the hall by 11pm, which means we have to shut the reception down at about 10pm. I might try to bribe someone to let us keep the place until midnight, though haha.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
@MichiganGirl24: I think the first look is a nice opportunity to get your and your new husband’s pictures out of the way, but I also plan (and many people do) on using the time between the ceremony and reception for pictures with your family too. Not just you and FI. So I would definitely leave time for that too! 🙂
As far as when it should start… no input here. That’s really up to you and how much time you want to spend doing pictures/whatever between.
Post # 4
@MichiganGirl24: I’m not familiar with Catholic ceremonies but most other ceremonies I’ve been to have been 30 minutes or less so I would at least give yourself that amount of time.
Also, I don’t know if you enjoy playing into these superstitions or not but it is good luck to get married (start the ceremony) on the half hour, i.e. 3:30. That way your marriage starts out on the “upswing” of the clock 🙂
It’s just one of those old traditions like the penny in your shoe and stuff.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
We had a suuuper similar wedding, so I can chime in on this!
We got married at an old bed & breakfast, and since the weather was great, we had an outdoor ceremony. The ceremony was under a big old oak tree, and the B&B had a pretty big property so there was plenty of room for guests to roam around and mingle during cocktail hour, before the dinner started. We had a bar set up at the opposite end of the property, and then the reception tables were already set up behind the ceremony space.
Here was our schedule:
4:00 Ceremony starts
4:30 Ceremony ends; cocktail hour starts
5:30 Bride & groom announced; reception starts; B&G first dance, father-daughter dance, mother-son dance
6:00 Dinner is served
7:00 Dinner plates cleared, toasts start
7:30 Toasts finish, people start dancing
8:30 Cake cutting
9:00 Ice cream truck arrives
9:30 Bouquet toss
10:30 Sparkler exit – reception ends
Our day-of coordinator helped us develop that schedule, and it worked out perfectly – there was a very nice flow of events and it was a good amount of dancing and partying, without being overkill, you know?
ETA: We had a casual reception and served BBQ too, and it was awesome 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 6
@Mrs. Wallaby: Wonderful! Thanks for providing your schedule! We won’t be doing a bouquet or garter toss as most of our guests will be married or in committed relationships, so that’ll give us more time for dancing! We also won’t be doing a cake cutting (we’re having a dessert bar), so that’ll save some time too.
I was thinking 5:00 might be a little early for dinner, even though I’m always starving at the ceremony of every wedding I’ve ever been to! Seeing your schedule makes me feel like we could push dinner back to 5:30 or 6!
Post # 7
@ValerieBee03: If we don’t get married in the church, we won’t be having a Catholic ceremony. I wrote this post about why we’re thinking about not getting married in the church: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/reconsidering-catholic-ceremony-help#axzz2htLm4J2K
So if we decide to get married at the reception venue, our ceremony would probably only last 20 to 30 minutes.
And I’ve never heard of that superstition of getting married on the half hour! I might try to incorporate that!
Post # 8
We are having our ceremony and reception at the same place. We are doing a first look as well with all bridal parry and family photos before hand, so that we can go straight from ceremony to reception. We are not having a cocktail hour just because of the time we have the place and to add an hour of every vendor adds up!