When should the mother of the bride enter the church and with whom ?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Mexican Christian here! (because we might have different traditions)

I am no etiquette snob, but there are a few options:


She can walk you down the aisle along with your father.

She can go with an uncle or brother.

She can go by herself (I wouldn’t do this, I would find it just weird).


I think my mom will (with my dad also) walk me down the aisle. If she doesn’t, she can walk in with my stepdad!

Post # 5
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@futuremrscap:  We plan on having my FI and the best man up at the front with the pastor. My FI brother will then escort his grandmother and then as she is seated go stand up as the first groomsman. His second brother will then escort their mother and go stand up as the next groomsman. My cousin will then escort my mom (her nephew) and as she is seated he will go stand up next. The remaining three groomsman will come in from the side at that time to fill in and then the girls will go followed by myself and my dad. I think its a nice way to have the moms and grandmom be featured without having extra people going up the aisle. I agree mom should be escorted by SOMEONE and think it is a little odd for her to go with your dad unless as a unit (you and your mom and your dad) are all super close (like my one friend is an only child and her and her parents are best friends) 

Post # 6
5162 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We didn’t make the MOB/MOG a part of the processional, but each chose to be escorted down the aisle when she was ready to be seated.  Since my DH’s parents are divorced, my DH’s mother was escorted by her other son.  My  mom asked my oldest male cousin to escort her while my BIL escorted my grandma.

Post # 7
3202 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My mom will be walked down the aisle by her parents, and my stepmom will be walked down the aisle by my dad’s parents.

Post # 8
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here.. lol

Some of this depends on “tradition” / custom and some on what is your Relgious following (ie Jewish Families, and BOTH Parents walk the Bride down the aisle)

So knowing more about your situation would be helpful

If you are middle of the road Christian, then usually it is a case where the MOB is the highest ranking person in attendance next to the Bride (the official Hostess) and so she is seated last just before the Processional.

Usually ushered to her seat by an Usher… either the one highest in the pecking order… or closest to her in relationship (ie your Brother, her Son is an Usher, then he’d be the one to accompany Mom)

If your Parents are Divorced, and Mom remarried (or dating) she’d be ushered to her seat as above, and her new love interest would follow behind… in which case, he’d tuck into the pew first, and her last.

If your Parents are Married your Dad would accompany you down the aisle, and tuck into the pew last next to Mom

If your Parents are Divorced, your Dad would accompany you down the aisle, and tuck into the second pew with his Date / GF / SO / Fiance / Wife (whatever status this woman has) *

Hope this helps,

IF you have more Questions, just ask or send me a PM

* NOTE – Divorces are complicated.  There is a whole other set of protocol for seating when it comes to those (give me more details)

If NO ONE is Divorced, the usual order is… that the most Honoured Guests are seated last in order of their ranking… so God Parents – Grand Parents – Parents of the Groom (MOG is # 2 on the Guest List) – and Mother of the Bride (who is # 1 on the Guest List)


Post # 13
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Have you ever seen the MOB and MOG already in the pew without being escorted there ?

NO, they got there somehow… and it was on the arm of an Usher.

As I said it is customary (Catholics included) that if both sets of Parents are still married, then the MOG and MOB are the last seated individuals before the Processional as they are the MOST HONORED of Guests.

In a traditional setting, this is a cue to the Attendees / Guests that the Wedding Ceremony is about to begin.

The Groom’s Parents are seated (on the right side looking from the rear) … then the Bride’s Mom (on the left side)

Then the Processional begins.

Hope this helps,


Post # 14
1034 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

In our wedding DH entered with his Mum and waited at the front. FIL then entered with my Mum as she didn’t want to arrive alone and this meant both our sets of parents had their place. Then I arrived with my Dad  when everyone was in there.

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