(Closed) When should two people get married.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should a couple get married if they are financially unstable?
    Yes : (66 votes)
    43 %
    No : (89 votes)
    57 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    i can’t speak for anyone else but i know personally, we waited to be financially stable before becoming engaged and planning a wedding. we waited until both of us graduated college and had careers. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 4
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    1020 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think it depends. If the couple in question are financially unstable due to a factor that will change, such as both parties being students, I could see getting engaged or eloping as valid options. But if they are unstable because of very poor financial choices that won’t change, then I’d correct those problems first.

    Post # 5
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    1459 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

    Honestly it’s probably not the best of best ideas but there are lots of couples (young and old) who get married when they are less than finanically secure who work out just fine. Really it’s just down to the people involved, money isn’t everything ^^

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    IMO, there’s probably never going to be a period in most people’s lives where everything is perfect in terms of money…everyone could always use more of it ๐Ÿ˜‰ However, if they’ve both got tons of student loans, no job, no place to live or means to pay rent or a mortgage, then they’re probably better off roughing it out at home with their families for a while longer. There’s got to be a balance where even though it’s not easy peasy to have a nice wedding and get a place, it’s do-able and you’ll be ok. 

    ETA- I absolutely think both people need to at least be done with their bachelor degrees before getting married…just my 2 cents.

    Post # 7
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    770 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’ve always felt that you should wait to get married until the last possible point at which you’ll still look good in photos.

    Post # 8
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    6360 posts
    Bee Keeper

    When they know they’re going to be together forever AND when they feel ready to. (has to be both).

    If they happen to be very low on finances at the time, I think the only mandatory cost is the paperwork, which I believe is not much.

    Throwing an expensive party when one cannot afford it is never a good idea, but also not necessary to get married.

    Post # 9
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    1020 posts
    Bumble bee

    @MaidMarian:  Exactly this! There is no perfect time, but some times are better than others. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 10
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    6360 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @likewoah:  so… like sometime in our 90s then ๐Ÿ™‚

     

    Post # 11
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    770 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @joya_aspera:  In my case, yes. Unfortunately, my fiance’s hair only has a few good months left. Wink

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Um, when they are both fully commited, have worked out their issues (how they communicate, how they fight, what their best and worst sides are- and when they can still deal with those things!), and understand one another and know what the other wants and needs and can deal with that. 

    Of course you don’t have to be financially stable.  I think emotional maturity is much more important- and it is good to live on your own for awhile (IMO) and have you own ups and downs and experiences but many people don’t do that first.

     

    Post # 13
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    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    For us, we became engaged when we are not financially stable or in any place to pay for a wedding, so we are having a long engagement so that we can eventually pay for the wedding that we want. I don’t think you need to wait to get engaged to have a wedding or to get married until you can pay for it (it certainly helps). 

    Post # 14
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    609 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I am from a poor family, FI is from a poor family, and we both have student loans. I don’t think we will every be financially “stable.”

    Post # 15
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    2550 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We’re not financially stable, and we don’t care. what’s stopping us from becoming so while we’re married?

    Post # 16
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    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I think it all depends on the type of wedding they want to have. If they are planning on having a huge, over the top wedding that will put them into the debt, then no. They should wait. But if they are financially saavy (or willing to take one of those newly wed finance classes to become so) and know how to work within the money they want, than absolutely! 

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