When should we deposit a check included with a NO RSVP?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3508 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@FinallyAlmostMrs:  Honestly I don’t know the etiquette part of it but I know personally I hate when I give a check and the person doesn’t cash it until a later date because then I have to make sure that the money is always there not a cent off. I would cash it

Post # 4
3031 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

@eecuadrado:  +1 

I can’t think of a reason you wouldn’t deposit it when you get it. You’re supposed to write the thank you card right away, so I would guess you “accept” the gift right away as well.

Post # 5
841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

@FinallyAlmostMrs:  I always hate it when people don’t cash my check right away. 

Post # 7
2612 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I’ve had so many people complain over the years about people not cashing their checks right away that I would cash it right away and send a thank you card right away too.

Post # 9
2388 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

 Deposit the check immediately and send a nice thank you note. It’s very frustrating to have an outstanding check month after month, because your records won’t match your statements. 

Post # 10
1563 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

With Checks, write a thank you note/regrets you won’t get to see them, and then deposit it immediately! I hate when people wait even over a week to deposit checks.

Post # 11
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

This just happened to me, and i wrote a thank you note and cashed the check within a few days. I really hate when people hold on to checks I write, so I didn’t want to hold someone else’s, especially since we’re still a few weeks out from the wedding.

Post # 12
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Write a thank you note before cashing it, but don’t wait until after the wedding. I can’t stand having outstanding checks on my account. I would start to worry that you didn’t get it if I didn’t see it leave my account within a two weeks.

Post # 13
6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@FinallyAlmostMrs:  your wedding isn’t until august (i assume)  checks expire after 6 months (if the tellers look at the date before processing)

so deposit now, send thank you note and that be that.


Post # 14
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Just cash it and send the thank you note right away. They will feel better that the money is withdrawn, and you’ll feel better having one more thank you note ticked off.

Post # 15
13451 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’d go ahead and deposit it and send a thank-you card right away. 🙂

Post # 16
2899 posts
Sugar bee

@FinallyAlmostMrs:  I would cash it soon enough. As other PPs have mentioned, even though you don’t want to appear like you’re in a urge to get cash, you also don’t want this person to stress over the fact the cheque hasn’t been cashed in yet (was it lost in the mail ? Will it withdraw the money at a wrong moment 2 months later ? etc.).

Unless the wedding was in a week (then it would be understandable to cash it after), I would deposit it and send a thank you note right away. 🙂 

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